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Ever wondered what it's like to be a professional Tahitian dancer who's also navigating the modern dating scene? Hokulani joins Chris on the REALationship Method podcast for her first-ever podcast interview, pulling back the curtain on her life beyond the dance performances you see on social media.
Born into a family of Polynesian dancers, Hokulani began competing at just six years old and has since transformed her passion into a thriving content creation career. She candidly shares how she monetizes her cultural performances through TikTok while maintaining respect for her Polynesian heritage—a delicate balance that influences everything from her content choices to her dating life.
The conversation takes a fascinating turn when Hokulani reveals her unconventional relationship counselor: ChatGPT! She explains how AI has helped her navigate dating dilemmas when she wasn't ready to speak with friends or family. This leads to a deeper discussion about modern dating customs, with Hokulani asserting that the "talking stage" should last no longer than 3-4 months before becoming official—a timeline that seems increasingly rare in today's dating landscape.
Perhaps most revealing is Hokulani's philosophy on ending relationships: "blocking on social media = out of sight, out of mind." She explains why she believes clean breaks are necessary and how living in Las Vegas while her family returned to Hawaii has shaped her independence. The episode concludes with Hokulani sharing details about a promising new connection and her plans to return to Hawaii within the year.
Whether you're interested in the intersection of cultural identity and modern relationships, curious about content creation as a career path, or simply enjoy authentic conversations about dating in the digital age, this episode offers refreshing insights from someone straddling traditional values and contemporary life.

• Hokulani shares her journey as a Tahitian dancer, competing since age six and eventually transforming her passion into a content creation career
• Discussion of how content creation became Hokulani's primary source of income through TikTok monetization and TikTok Shop
• Exploration of texting behaviors in relationships and how Hokulani uses ChatGPT as an unconventional therapist for relationship advice
• Hokulani reveals her perspective that the "talking stage" should last no more than 3-4 months before becoming official
• Conversation about dating expectations, including chivalry and the importance of opening car doors
• Debate on whether dating multiple people while single makes someone a "player" or is actually healthy exploration
• Hokulani explains her philosophy on blocking exes: "out of sight, out of mind"
• Discussion about Hokulani's plans to move back to Hawaii from Las Vegas within the next year
• Analysis of how being a content creator affects dating life and why some men find social media status intimidating