The secret to lasting love isn't about finding the perfect partner or mastering communication techniques. There's one fundamental question that predicts whether your relationship will thrive or fail: "Can I be me with you?" If you are searching for relationship repair or relationship advice, this might be the show for you.
In this deep-dive conversation, Elliot and Lottie explore the core elements that determine relationship success, from emotional safety and vulnerability to the crucial role of boundaries and self-awareness.
Key Takeaways:
• Why emotional safety is the foundation of all healthy relationships
• How childhood experiences shape your adult relationship patterns
• The difference between defensiveness and healthy boundaries
• Why "I like you" might be more powerful than "I love you"
• How to recognise when you're reacting from past trauma vs. present reality
Timestamps:
00:00 Understanding Triggers in Relationships
02:46 The Importance of Emotional Connection
05:28 Navigating Vulnerability and Safety
08:23 Identifying Negative Patterns and Accountability
11:10 The Role of Childhood in Adult Relationships
13:54 The Impact of Boundaries on Relationships
16:44 The Balance of Individuality and Togetherness
19:33 The Significance of Time and Friendship
22:11 The Power of 'Like' in Relationships
25:03 Recognizing Past Influences on Present Relationships
27:46 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Healing
30:28 The Dynamics of People-Pleasing and Assertiveness
33:24 The Complexity of Relationship Expectations
36:04 Summarizing Key Takeaways for Relationship Success
💡 Featured Concepts:
• The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (Gottman)
• Window of Tolerance (Babette Rothschild)
• I Before We Philosophy
• Family of Origin Work
Perfect for:
• Couples seeking deeper emotional connection
• Individuals preparing for healthy relationships
• Anyone struggling with boundaries and people-pleasing
• Those recognising patterns from childhood in their relationships
In this engaging storytime, we explore the power of effective communication. Learn practical communication skills and discover how to talk to people with confidence. Improve your english conversation and master how to start a conversation, making every interaction more meaningful.
Filmed in Winchester, Southampton in the UK!
Released on the day that we saw Protests in Southampton and if you like
Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel, we might be the show for you...
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