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In today’s episode, Kim and her teen son Jake explore one of the most important yet tricky parts of parenting: knowing when to step in and advocate for your child — and when to step back and let them take responsibility. You’ll hear a real-life mother-son conversation that is for everyone. If you are a parent raising a neurodiverse child or someone trying to hold the balance between protection and empowerment, this episode is for you!

Topics we cover:

• What effective advocacy really looks like — it’s more than just fighting your child’s battles.
• How to approach conversations with teachers, administrators and schools in a calm, collaborative way.
• Why gathering the full picture matters before reacting, especially in emotionally charged situations.
• How to help neurodiverse kids build self-advocacy, not just rely on you to always intervene.
• Five proven strategies to help you stay grounded when your “mama/papa bear” instinct kicks in.
• What advocacy isn’t: shielding kids from consequences, excusing behavior, or letting guilt dictate your responses.
• The long-game: teaching your child life skills of communication, empathy and resilience through your advocacy model.

Whether your child is navigating school challenges, big emotions, social conflict, or simply growing into more independence, this episode gives you practical steps and the mindset shift to move from “jumping in” to “partnering with” your child — and ultimately preparing them to stand on their own.

Key Takeaways:

• Pause → gather facts → approach with curiosity.
• Use “we” language (“How can we support…”), not “you’re failing.”
• Validate feelings AND hold accountability.
• Advocate with your child, not for them.
• Celebrate progress over perfection.
• Understand that for neurodiverse kids, collaboration with educators matters more than confrontation.

Resources & References:

• Fan, X. & Chen, M. (2001). Parental involvement and students’ academic achievement: A meta-analysis. Review of Educational Research, 70(1), 27-61.
• Hill, N. E., & Tyson, D. F. (2009). Parental involvement in middle school: A meta-analytic assessment of the strategies that promote achievement. Developmental Psychology, 45(3), 740-763.
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• LeMoyne, T., & Buchanan, T. (2011). Does “hovering” matter? Helicopter parenting and its effect on well-being. College Student Journal, 45(1), 31-40.
• Stoner, J. B., et al. (2005). Parental perspectives on collaboration with schools: Supporting students with autism spectrum disorders. Focus on Autism and Other Developmental Disabilities, 20(1), 39-51.
• Trainor, A. A. (2010). Parent advocacy for students with disabilities: A critical review of the literature. Remedial and Special Education, 31(1), 34-47.
• Weissbourd, R. (2016). The power of parenting with purpose. Harvard Graduate School of Education.

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