Why Saying "Yes" All the Time Isn’t Always Kindness

Hosted by: Mommy Loi – VA Mentor, Trainer, and Fellow WFH Mom
Language: Taglish
Duration: Approx. 30 mins

🎧 Episode Summary:

Hi mga mommies! In this heart-to-heart solo episode, Mommy Loi opens up about one of the biggest lessons she had to learn (and re-learn) as a Virtual Assistant: being kind is NOT the same as being a people pleaser. 💔

Kung minsan, sa sobrang bait natin—lalo tayong mga empathic moms—napapabayaan na natin ang sarili nating needs, time, at well-being. In this episode, Loi dives into:

✔️ The difference between empowered kindness vs. people pleasing
✔️ Signs that you might be getting exploited by your client
✔️ Real-life stories and mistakes from Loi’s own VA journey
✔️ Sample scripts you can use to set healthy, respectful boundaries
✔️ Practical tips to protect your energy as a VA-mom

This one’s para sa’yo, Mami VA na sobrang bait, pero ubos na, ubos na. 😮‍💨💛

📌 Episode Highlights:
00:00 Welcome to the Mommy Lounge Podcast
00:57 Understanding People-Pleasing
02:35 Signs of Client Exploitation
13:09 Setting Boundaries with Clients
17:04 Empowered Kindness and Final Thoughts

💡 5 Signs Na Na-eeexploits Ka Na Ni Client:

1. Laging may dagdag na task na ‘di napag-usapan
2. Palaging late magbayad (or worse, may delay tactics)
3. Minamasama kapag nagpapaalam ka for emergencies or rest
4. Feeling mo ikaw na lahat – designer, admin, video editor, etc.
5. Lagi kang pagod, stressed, or umiiyak after work 😔

🛑 People Pleasing vs. Kindness:
Being kind includes you. May boundaries. May respect.
Being a people pleaser? Sacrificing yourself para lang ‘di masaktan ang iba.
🗣️ Boundary-Setting Scripts You Can Use:
✨ “I’d love to help, but that task is outside our agreed scope…”
✨ “Can we revisit this next week?”
✨ “I want to deliver quality work, so let me finish this first…”

👩‍💻 Empowerment Tip:
Start shifting from people-pleasing to empowered kindness by:
✅ Creating a clear contract and scope of work
✅ Respecting your time (and energy!)
✅ Learning to say “No” — with grace and professionalism
✅ Having a support group (join The Mommy Lounge FB Group!)
🎉 Coming Up Next!
Don’t miss our next episode featuring two amazing VA moms:
✨ Mommy Ebba – former RWC Academy trainee, now with 2 clients
✨ Mommy Cristalin – ex-office worker, now training as a project coordinator
Get ready to be inspired by their transformation stories! 💪
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Intro/Outro music used in this episode: "Jupiter"
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