In this episode of The MentalCast, host Dan Mickle explores the complicated and often misunderstood use of the word bully in youth sports. Are young athletes truly experiencing bullying in more situations, or have we started labeling every uncomfortable moment as something harmful?

Dan breaks down the growing confusion between bullying and accountability, looking at why this happens, how it affects athlete development, and how adults can better support young performers by using more accurate and consistent language. You will learn how feedback, correction, and emotional discomfort differ from actual bullying, and why mixing the two can create real problems for athletes, parents, and coaches.

The episode also highlights how neurodivergent athletes may interpret tone, structure, and pressure differently, making it even more important for adults to communicate with clarity and intention. This is a meaningful discussion about how to protect athletes who need protection while still teaching resilience, responsibility, and emotional regulation.

In The Proper Atmosphere segment, Dan answers a listener’s question about a young autistic athlete who feels targeted by her coach’s corrections and needs help distinguishing feedback from harm.

Topics covered:

• What bullying is and what it is not
• Why accountability often gets mistaken for harmful behavior
• How overusing the word bully can dilute real concerns
• Understanding how neurodivergent athletes interpret tone and correction
• How to build clear and healthy accountability in sports environments
• Strategies for helping athletes decode intention and develop resilience

Links Mentioned:

• Athlete:365 Book by Dan Mickle
• Dr. Jen Fry

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