Have you ever wondered "what if"? Especially about life's most significant choices, like who you married or the career path you took? This episode dives deep into regret, that complex emotion often defined by the thought "how much better if it had been otherwise".

We explore the psychology of regret, looking at why while we may regret actions more intensely in the short term, missed opportunities and inactions tend to loom larger over the longer term. Discover how long-term regret, particularly about paths not taken, can sometimes involve a wistful, almost pleasant fantasy of what might have been, challenging traditional views of regret as purely negative or distressing.

Drawing on philosophy, we examine the role of narrative in understanding regret. Major life commitments like marriage become central structures in our life stories. Regret can be the feeling of contemplating an alternative, counterfactual narrative – a story of a life lived differently.

We also look at the neuroscience behind regret. Learn about the brain areas involved in processing this complex emotion, particularly the ventromedial prefrontal cortex (vmPFC) and amygdala, which are crucial for evaluating outcomes, considering alternatives, and assigning personal responsibility – a key component of regret.

Marital regret offers a unique lens, touching on deeply personal decisions that also shape a shared life narrative. It highlights the interplay between individual feelings and the commitment to a collective future.

Understanding regret, in its varied forms and functions, offers profound insights into our decision-making processes, how we evaluate our past, and how we envision our potential futures. It's more than just feeling bad; it's about self-evaluation, the stories we tell ourselves, and the intricate connection between our choices, our identity, and the roads not taken. Join us as we unpack the psychology and philosophy of questioning major life choices, from career paths to marriage, helping you gain a new perspective on the regrets we all carry.