Navigating Sexual Boundaries with Love and Patience

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At the start of this year, I suggested that you Honour Your Wife by Letting Go of Sexual Preferences. I said if there were a couple of things you wanted that she keeps rejecting, you should stop asking for those. I proposed your wife is more important than those sex acts.

Then someone asked, “What if she has a lot of things she doesn’t like?”

I’m assuming this is about a wife who’s willing to have sex, but only does a very few things. So the issue is boredom, not refusal.

It’s tempting to say there are men who would give anything to have regular boring sex, but I realise that doesn’t make anyone feel better.

The problem is pushing such a woman for more will turn her off. She’s doing what works for her. Other things are a problem either because they don’t arouse her, turn her off, or in her mind they’re unacceptable.

My suggestion is to become very skilled at what she’s okay with. And thank her regularly for being there for you sexually. Give her time to feel secure in what you now do. Then suggest something just across the current line. Don’t ask, just say it might be interesting to _____ sometime.

This is the best path to doing more. There’s no guarantee, but if you can be loving and patient, odds are it will eventually move the needle.

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