EPISODE 72: This Is The Energy You Need To Take With You On A First Date

Be honest—have you ever planned your wedding with someone you haven’t even met yet?

And then felt totally let down when they rocked up in a tracksuit and picked their nose through dinner?

(Yeah… I’ve been there too.)

After a 4-year dating break, I made a huge mistake: I over-romanticised first dates before they even happened. I’d build a whole fantasy based on a few messages, imagining instant chemistry and fairy-tale moments… only to feel disappointed when reality didn’t match the story in my head.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I share why this mindset is unfair to both you and your date, and how shifting your energy, expectations, and self-talk can make first dates more fun, pressure-free, and genuinely enjoyable.

I also answer a listener’s dating dilemma on how to look and feel confident for a first date (even when you’re not feeling it inside). From go-to outfits to pre-date mindset hacks, you’ll walk away with simple, practical tips you can use straight away.

Tune in now to hear:

1. The biggest dating mistake I made after a 4-year break

2. Why over-romanticising first dates sets you up for disappointment

3. How to bring “open energy” instead of pressure to your dates

4. Simple mindset shifts to leave past bad dates behind

5. Dating dilemma: “I’m a single mum who’s just started dating, how can I look and feel confident even when I don’t feel it inside?”

6. The “first date outfit” test that works every time

7. Quick pre-date hacks: playlists, self-talk, and confidence boosts

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