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SANDRA HATTON: Why Dating Isn’t Broken | EPISODE 20
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Sandra Hatton: Why Dating Isn’t Broken — It’s Just Misunderstood | The BASIC Show w/ Viktorija Pashuta
In this episode of The BASIC Show, host Viktorija Pashuta sits down with professional matchmaker and When We First founder Sandra Hatton for a candid and surprisingly refreshing look at modern love — from dating apps to emotional alignment and everything in between.
Sandra opens up about:
💔 Why most people don’t actually know what they want in love
💡 How matchmaking blends human intuition with modern tech
📱 The “Human Button” — a feature that makes online dating personal again
💬 Why alignment matters more than chemistry
👠 Feminine energy, standards, and the real dating mindset shift post-COVID
🔥 28 dates in 30 days — and what it taught her about attraction
This conversation breaks the illusion that dating is “broken” and replaces it with a simple truth: love takes self-awareness, emotional clarity, and a willingness to get out of the house.
🎧 Listen now — and tag someone who still believes butterflies don’t exist.
Chapters
1. Dating is “broken”? (00:00:00)
2. Dark Matter, NYC Vibes (00:01:16)
3. Why she built When We First (00:02:01)
4. Online Dating vs. Matchmaking (00:03:35)
5. The “Human Button” App (00:04:46)
6. Algorithm Built on Goals (00:05:39)
7. Choice Overload Problem (00:06:29)
8. How Matchmaking Actually Works (00:08:10)
9. First Question: “Why Now?” (00:09:42)
10. Goals Evolve with Dating (00:10:01)
11. Long Lists, Real Issues (00:11:19)
12. Weekly Coaching, Realignment (00:11:57)
13. Date for Alignment, Not Hype (00:12:46)
14. 28 Dates in 30 Days (00:13:06)
15. Type Myths and Surprises (00:14:21)
16. Masculine Energy Story (00:15:30)
17. Second-Date Rule of Thumb (00:16:11)
18. What to Ask First (00:17:42)
19. Truthfulness and Intentionality (00:18:21)
20. Accessible vs. Premium Packages (00:19:10)
21. Profile of Busy Men (00:20:28)
22. Will He Make Time? (00:21:58)
23. Apps vs. Intentional Membership (00:22:47)
24. Pressure and Earning Trust (00:23:57)
25. Standards vs. Must-Haves (00:24:58)
26. Favorite “Butterflies” Success (00:25:57)
27. Intuition Beats Checklists (00:28:20)
28. Opposites Often Attract (00:29:36)
29. Align Goals, Then Chemistry (00:30:53)
30. Visualization, Within Reason (00:31:33)
31. Looks Are Secondary (00:32:09)
32. Photos Rarely Match Reality (00:32:38)
33. Blind Dates Work (00:33:42)
34. Good Photos, Always (00:34:44)
35. Feedback That Helps (00:35:27)
36. Three First-Date Tips (00:36:17)
37. Keep It Light Early (00:37:17)
38. Drinks, Dress, Confidence (00:38:46)
39. Effort vs. Perfection (00:39:32)
40. Do Men Have “Types”? (00:40:49)
41. Let Him Do the Chasing (00:41:48)
42. When Women Lead Gently (00:43:06)
43. Text Timing Signals (00:44:26)
44. Don’t Chase, Communicate (00:45:11)
45. The “Cab Light” Theory (00:46:22)
46. Ready Men, Real Commitments (00:47:19)
47. High-Achieving Women Dating (00:49:21)
48. What “Feminine Energy” Means (00:50:23)
49. Who Pays, When (00:50:53)
50. Creative, Thoughtful Gestures (00:52:05)
51. Calm is the Green Flag (00:53:28)
52. Leave if it Feels Wrong (00:53:40)
53. Where to Find Her Work (00:54:07)
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