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Professional Development: Self-Help or Self-Sabotage
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In this episode, host Molly Beyer talks about self-help, the drive for continuous improvement, and when it crosses a line to become a stealthy form of self-sabotage. Lifelong learning is a good thing: development, both personally and professionally, is necessary for growth and confidence. But where does it become too much? When we start to measure ourselves against impossible standards and begin to feel like we’re never doing enough. Molly explores where this line is and how to avoid it.
Perfectionism, according to Molly, can be used as protection. If we keep working on ourselves, we avoid ever actually showing up, which is a common trap she sees grow within self-help. But perfectionism is a moving target and not a prerequisite for success. She also names obsessing over self-improvement as a common trap. We reach a point of constant self-improvement obsession and analysis of self without actually doing anything different. The third trap is self-care as avoidance, the fourth is negative self-talk disguised as reflection, and the final trap is losing sight of the bigger picture.
Molly breaks down what each of the five traps looks like in the workplace and how they work against us. Too much self-help works until it doesn’t, until it breaks down and leaves us in a shame spiral. Molly asks, “What if we’re not broken?”. She offers ways we can gently and intentionally break the cycle of self-sabotage. One of the key points is to ask ourselves if we’d talk to a loved one the way we talk to ourselves. She has sound advice and direction on how to break free from each of the five traps, designed to help us remember that we don’t have to earn our worth through endless self-improvement. We don’t have to hustle for our healing.
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