The Hidden Habit of Self-Sabotage, How Perfectionism Destroys High-Performer Relationships

Dr. Brittany McGeehan exposes the dark side of healing for high performers—how perfectionism and the fear of rupture quietly sabotage even the strongest relationships.

In Episode 10 of The Aligned Powerhouse Podcast, Dr. Brittany McGeehan pulls back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood habits of self-sabotage: perfectionism in relationships. While many high-achieving women believe that “doing it right” will keep their partnerships safe, Brittany reveals how this very mindset creates disconnection, resentment, and burnout at home.

Through her clinical insights, Brittany explains why the fear of rupture runs so deep for high performers, and how the desire to control and “heal perfectly” undermines intimacy and trust. This episode is an invitation to break free from the cycle of over-functioning and learn to lead in love with authenticity, resilience, and self-compassion.

If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is suffering despite your best efforts, this conversation will help you see why—and what to do about it.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The hidden connection between perfectionism and relational breakdowns
• Why high performers fear rupture—and how it silently drives disconnection
• How “healing perfectly” becomes another form of self-sabotage
• The impact of unresolved family patterns on intimacy and communication
• Why over-functioning in relationships creates resentment and burnout
• Practical shifts to build deeper trust and authenticity with your partner

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