Some children don’t rush in. They watch. They listen. They take it all in.

In this episode, I’m joined by Christine Devane, author of Elephant Beach, for a powerful conversation about supporting shy children and how they teach us about belonging. We explore how to help shy kids integrate into group settings without forcing them to perform, how to guide other children toward inclusion and empathy, and why patience is one of the most underestimated tools adults have.

Christine shares the inspiration behind her children’s book and explains how stories can help children understand that shyness isn’t something to fix. It’s something to respect. We talk about giving children the space to observe, feel safe, and join in on their own terms, and how this approach builds confidence that lasts far beyond childhood.

What makes this conversation especially meaningful is that these strategies don’t apply only to shy kids. The insights shared here are transferable to any child who feels different, unsure, or on the outside. This episode reminds us that belonging doesn’t come from changing who a child is, but from changing how we welcome them.

If you would like to know more about Christine's work, you can follow her on IG @stined13 You can also get her books on Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, and on her website at www.christine-devane.com