Welcome to our sobriety birthday party podcast. Today September 29th I'm 16 years sober and Carrie (here's her Substack) turned 26 years sober on September 17th, the day we recorded this. You're in for a fun treat as we unpack all the sobriety birthday and sober time things.

In this candid convo, Carrie and I unpack the status game around sober time, the shame of “starting over,” why slips don’t erase growth, and what feels actually worth celebrating now.

If you’ve ever felt weird about chips, countdowns, or announcing your sobriety date, this one’s for you.

We explore:

• What sobriety dates measure—and what they don’t
• The difference between early-days momentum vs. long-term identity
• How purity culture sneaks into recovery language
• Alternative markers of progress (health, boundaries, critical thinking, purpose)
• Harm-reduction openness and letting people choose what works for them

1:04 Carrie's sobriety birthday feels

06:26 Rethinking slips, relapses and changing sobriety date

10:36 AA conference slipped alcohol

16:02 Rigidity around sobriety birthday announcements

21:39 What does a sobriety birthday actually measure?

23:04 Does drinking actually "erase" sobriety time?

31:04 Why anchor to an old bad habit?

36:59 Sobriety date becomes new birthday

40:18 Sobriety birthday parties

47:37 How long does it take to deprogram?

55:18 Sobriety time "status" game

57:27 Coerced into marketing AA via sobriety chips

1:07:52 What feels relevant to celebrate now?

1:17:22 Do sobriety birthdays matter?

1:24:20 Sober time hierarchy + countdowns

Carrie's Substack: https://carrieengland.substack.com/

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