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What happens when toxic leadership meets talented professionals? In this riveting conversation with executive coach Ayanna Coston, we unpack the painful reality of navigating bad bosses while preserving your authentic self.
Ayana shares her experience with her first corporate boss—a leader who disappeared when things went well but materialized instantly when problems arose. She introduces us to the "throw the rock syndrome," where bosses criticize without providing direction, leaving employees endlessly guessing what success looks like. This experience taught Ayanna to advocate for herself through strategic questioning and maintain her integrity despite challenging circumstances.
The conversation takes a powerful turn as we explore how professionals from marginalized backgrounds often compromise their identities to succeed in corporate environments. From code-switching to changing hairstyles, both hosts share personal stories of the sacrifices made to appear "acceptable" in professional spaces. As Ayana notes, "For years I didn't wear sewing weaves, I didn't wear braids... but it took a toll and damaged my hair." This candid discussion highlights how younger generations are increasingly rejecting these compromises.
We also tackle the declining interest in management positions, with Ayana revealing that 85-90% of her coaching clients express reluctance to pursue leadership roles. This trend signals a significant shift in how professionals view career advancement, challenging organizations to create alternative paths for technical experts who deserve recognition without managing people.
The episode concludes with practical wisdom for anyone struggling with difficult leadership, emphasizing self-knowledge and intentional responses to workplace challenges. As Ayana advises, "Pick battles big enough to matter but small enough to win." Whether you're dealing with a toxic boss or navigating organizational politics, this conversation offers strategies to survive, thrive, and maintain your authentic self along the way.

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