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Adoption, Identity, And Finding Your People

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What happens when the truth comes early, a storm knocks out the island’s power, and a single name spoken in a courtroom echoes for decades? We bring you Jennifer’s journey—from being adopted at two days old on Guam to leading an NYC adoption agency for older youth—and the winding path between belonging, uncertainty, and grace.
We talk about the power of honest language in childhood and how it turns “You’re adopted” from a weapon into a badge of identity. Jennifer shares how race and visibility shaped daily life when strangers questioned family resemblance, and why being the only sibling placed for adoption can hold both gratitude and unanswered why. A typhoon delayed the phone lines, a JAG attorney steadied the process, and years later a letter reopened a closed adoption with care, caution, and compassion. The first reunion happened at a family gathering; the next brought both families together, proof that love can hold complexity without breaking.
We go deep on adoption‑competent therapy—why standard counseling often stalls with adoptee‑specific trauma, ambiguous loss, and reunion dynamics, and how specialized clinicians change the work. Jennifer traces her calling to public service, moving to New York, and stepping into leadership at an agency that finds families for teens in foster care. The job brings vicarious trauma, but also purpose: a daily commitment to permanence, safety, and dignity for youth who’ve been told they don’t matter.
If you’ve ever stared at a blank line on a birth certificate or felt the pull to find a missing piece of self, this conversation offers language, tools, and a little hope. Subscribe, share this episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review with the moment that stayed with you most. Your voice helps others find the support they deserve.

Music by Curtis Rodgers IG @itsjustcurtis
Produce and Edited by Lisa Sapp
Executive Producer Lisa Sapp
Executive Producer Johnnie Underwood
Tell us your story or leave a comment by following us on
IG soimadoptedpod
FB so.i'm adopted
Youtube SO...I'M ADOPTED
Email [email protected]

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Chapters

1. Welcome And Today’s Focus (00:00:00)

2. Famous Adoptees And Culture (00:02:45)

3. Listener Impact And Non‑Traditional Families (00:06:50)

4. Meet Jennifer: Early Life Snapshot (00:09:14)

5. Knowing From The Start And Family Truth (00:12:00)

6. Identity, Race, And Public Scrutiny (00:18:40)

7. Closed Adoption And The Storm (00:24:30)

8. The Letter, Recon, And Reunion (00:30:05)

9. Why Only One Child Was Placed (00:36:20)

10. HBCU Choice And Guarded Bonds (00:41:30)

11. Therapy, But Adoption‑Competent (00:47:20)

12. Calling, Career, And New York Move (00:53:10)

13. Leading An Agency For Older Youth (00:58:20)

14. Reunion Dynamics And Mixed Emotions (01:04:10)

15. The Missing Father And Acceptance (01:10:15)

16. Humility, Faith, And Purpose (01:15:40)

19 episodes

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What happens when the truth comes early, a storm knocks out the island’s power, and a single name spoken in a courtroom echoes for decades? We bring you Jennifer’s journey—from being adopted at two days old on Guam to leading an NYC adoption agency for older youth—and the winding path between belonging, uncertainty, and grace.
We talk about the power of honest language in childhood and how it turns “You’re adopted” from a weapon into a badge of identity. Jennifer shares how race and visibility shaped daily life when strangers questioned family resemblance, and why being the only sibling placed for adoption can hold both gratitude and unanswered why. A typhoon delayed the phone lines, a JAG attorney steadied the process, and years later a letter reopened a closed adoption with care, caution, and compassion. The first reunion happened at a family gathering; the next brought both families together, proof that love can hold complexity without breaking.
We go deep on adoption‑competent therapy—why standard counseling often stalls with adoptee‑specific trauma, ambiguous loss, and reunion dynamics, and how specialized clinicians change the work. Jennifer traces her calling to public service, moving to New York, and stepping into leadership at an agency that finds families for teens in foster care. The job brings vicarious trauma, but also purpose: a daily commitment to permanence, safety, and dignity for youth who’ve been told they don’t matter.
If you’ve ever stared at a blank line on a birth certificate or felt the pull to find a missing piece of self, this conversation offers language, tools, and a little hope. Subscribe, share this episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review with the moment that stayed with you most. Your voice helps others find the support they deserve.

Music by Curtis Rodgers IG @itsjustcurtis
Produce and Edited by Lisa Sapp
Executive Producer Lisa Sapp
Executive Producer Johnnie Underwood
Tell us your story or leave a comment by following us on
IG soimadoptedpod
FB so.i'm adopted
Youtube SO...I'M ADOPTED
Email [email protected]

  continue reading

Chapters

1. Welcome And Today’s Focus (00:00:00)

2. Famous Adoptees And Culture (00:02:45)

3. Listener Impact And Non‑Traditional Families (00:06:50)

4. Meet Jennifer: Early Life Snapshot (00:09:14)

5. Knowing From The Start And Family Truth (00:12:00)

6. Identity, Race, And Public Scrutiny (00:18:40)

7. Closed Adoption And The Storm (00:24:30)

8. The Letter, Recon, And Reunion (00:30:05)

9. Why Only One Child Was Placed (00:36:20)

10. HBCU Choice And Guarded Bonds (00:41:30)

11. Therapy, But Adoption‑Competent (00:47:20)

12. Calling, Career, And New York Move (00:53:10)

13. Leading An Agency For Older Youth (00:58:20)

14. Reunion Dynamics And Mixed Emotions (01:04:10)

15. The Missing Father And Acceptance (01:10:15)

16. Humility, Faith, And Purpose (01:15:40)

19 episodes

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