The process of addiction involves completely abandoning expectations. They no longer serve you, nor anyone else involved in the process. But...those hopes do exist.
In this Episode I site Nora McInerny journey of grieving her Husband's death and how Nora refused to let anyone 'Should' all over her in how to heal from this loss.
The same can happen with parents of children battling addiction. But who are we serving when we hold on to expected milestones of pre-defined success? For me, no one.
1:30 - Nora McInerny, Don't Should all over Yourself, at about 4:19 in.
4:05 - Nora McInerny, We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it, TedHealth
5:30 - On Mourning and Recovery: Integrating Stages of Grief and Change Toward a Neuroscience-based Model of Attachment Adaptation in Addiction Treatment. Note, in the Podcast I stated both are from the Indiana University School of Medicine, which does not apply to Sue C. Wallingford, who is the Chair, Division of Transpersonal Counseling and Psychology, Associate Professor, Graduate School of Counseling & Psychology, Naropa University, Boulder, CO. R. Andrew Chambers, MD1, is the Director, Addiction Psychiatry Training Program & Lab for Translational Neuroscience of Dual Diagnosis, Associate Professor, Department of Psychiatry, Indiana University School of Medicine,
Indianapolis, IN.
6:35 - Nucleus Accumbens
7:35 -The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) definition from Psychology Today
8:30 - Connection and Addiction explained in a TedTalk, Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong, by Johann Hari

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If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you.
Walk gently, my friend.