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Healing the Voice That Says You Are Unlovable
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In this solo episode, Steve opens the door to a story he has carried for decades. What begins with a humorous memory from childhood quickly turns into a profound exploration of vulnerability, trauma and the armor we learn to build long before we understand what it costs us.
With honesty and grace, he speaks about surviving sexual abuse, growing up with a stutter that made speaking feel like danger and the shame he inherited from a father who could not show love in the way he needed.
This conversation is raw, human, and generous. It is an invitation to remember the parts of ourselves we hid to survive and to begin choosing courage in the moments that matter.
He explains:
⬛ Childhood experiences often register as life threatening in the nervous system, even when the danger is emotional not physical.
⬛ Armor begins as protection but becomes a prison that keeps us from the love and connection we want most.
⬛ Shame tells us we are bad rather than we did something bad, and it often forms when a child cannot understand why they do not feel loved.
⬛ Vulnerability feels like danger because the brain learned early that truth equals threat. Your body is not broken. It is protecting you.
⬛ Sharing trauma in safe spaces helps the brain convert frozen fragments into integrated memory.
⬛ Regulating the nervous system is essential because you cannot think your way out of activation.
⬛ Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is choosing truth while fear is present.
⬛ Small and honest statements are powerful first steps in taking off the armor.
⬛ Real vulnerability is not spectacle. It is authenticity without the guarantee of how it will be received.
⬛ The things we want most love, belonging, joy, creativity, meaningful connection only exist when we allow ourselves to be seen.
Chapters
00:00 The Streaking Analogy: Understanding Vulnerability
02:37 Childhood Trauma and Its Impact on Vulnerability
05:52 The Armor We Build: Protecting Ourselves
08:31 The Role of Vulnerability in Connection
11:33 The Science of Vulnerability and Courage
14:15 Shame and Its Roots in Childhood
17:22 Forgiveness and Reframing Our Stories
20:03 The Importance of Vulnerability in Relationships
23:13 Overcoming Societal Expectations of Masculinity
25:47 The Neuroscience of Vulnerability
28:51 Healing Through Storytelling
31:29 Practical Steps to Embrace Vulnerability
34:23 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Authenticity
37:13 The Call to Courage: Letting Go of Armor
About Steve:
Steve is a longtime entrepreneur and former finance professional who achieved significant external success while quietly battling the internal impact of severe childhood trauma and addiction. After years of intensive healing work through somatic therapy, psychedelic-assisted processes, and brain-based interventions, he experienced a profound internal shift that reoriented his life toward service, storytelling, and mental health advocacy.
Follow Steve:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theneurosjourney/
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