If you struggle to set boundaries with your child—if you say yes when you want to say no, if you give in to avoid conflict, if you feel guilty every time you hold a limit—this episode is for you. Here's the truth: The boundaries you set (or don't set) are directly teaching your child what boundaries are, how they work, and whether they matter. And that lesson will shape their entire life. In this episode, you'll discover: - What a boundary actually is (hint: it's not a rule you impose on someone else) - Why kids who grow up with clear boundaries become adults who can protect themselves - The four reasons boundaries feel so hard (and what to do about each one) - How to state a boundary clearly and follow through every single time - Why your child's discomfort with a boundary is not the same as harm By the end of this episode, you'll understand how to set boundaries without feeling mean or guilty—and why this is some of the most important parenting work you can do. Resources mentioned: - "Set Boundaries, Find Peace" by Nedra Glover Tawwab - "The Book of Boundaries" by Melissa Urban - "The Disease to Please" by Harriet Braiker Sign up for practical strategies at www.lumosbaystate.com/climbingfishparenting Your kid isn't broken. Your parenting isn't broken. Sometimes we're just asking our fish to climb trees. That's what we fix here.