The Attachment Trap: How We Lose Ourselves Trying to Feel Loved
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What if all the insight in the world still leaves you feeling disconnected?
You’ve read the books. You’ve gone to therapy. You know your attachment style. And yet... the same patterns keep showing up in your relationship.
In this episode, Lauren Dry is joined by relationship coach Jack Bohannan, who brings both lived experience and expert insight to the conversation around love, nervous system healing, and emotional safety. Together, they delve into the intricacies of attachment theory, focusing on how these patterns show up in modern relationships especially for high-achieving women partnered with emotionally avoidant men.
They explore the dynamics of anxious and avoidant attachment, how they often look different in men and women, and why doing all the emotional labor in a relationship doesn’t create connection, it erodes it. Jack shares his own journey of relational breakdown and healing, and offers practical, somatic tools to help you come back to yourself and create a secure bond that doesn’t cost your identity.
You’ll hear us explore:
- Why therapy and insight don’t always create lasting change
- How anxious and avoidant patterns show up in real-time and what’s underneath them
- The hidden cost of “doing all the work” in a relationship
- Why letting your partner struggle might be the most loving thing you do
- Somatic tools to regulate your nervous system and reconnect with yourself
Resources & Links:
- Learn more about Rise into Regulation™, the skillset for connection, communication, and Nervous System safety in modern marriage
- Follow Lauren on Instagram @lauren_dry
- Follow Jack on Instagram @jack.unscripted
- Visit Jack’s website www.jackbohannan.com
- Access Jack’s free webinar Get Back Your Power in Love
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Big love,
Lauren X
The Connection Catalyst
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