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How I Refused to Let My Negative Thoughts Live in My Head Rent-Free
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In this mindset-shifting episode, Anya gets real about the negative thoughts that sneak into our minds—and how to stop letting them take over. Whether you’ve told yourself *“I’m a procrastinator,”* *“I can’t keep up,”* or *“I’m just not enough,”* this episode walks you through exactly how to catch those thoughts, challenge them, and replace them with something better.
Backed by neuroscience, practical examples, and mom-life reality, this is your go-to reset when your mind feels cluttered and your confidence feels low.
Key Takeaways:
- Your mind can only hold one thought at a time—so choose it intentionally.Most thoughts are neutral until we believe them. Don’t give negative thoughts free rent in your brain.
- Every negative thought is an opportunity to rewire your belief system. You're not responsible for your first thought, but you are responsible for the second one.
- Emotions are like waves—you can’t stop them from rising, but you can choose whether or not to ride them.Gratitude helps activate your parasympathetic nervous system and reset your emotional state.
- Behavior doesn’t lie. You rebuild self-worth by how you treat yourself—clear one drawer, get up when the alarm rings, take one small step. Action is everything.
- Your energy speaks louder than your words.Children don’t just hear what you say—they absorb the emotional tone you lead with. Calm starts with you.
In this episode, we discuss:
00:00 — The mental junk drawer—why we start here
00:28 — How thoughts shape energy, nervous system, and self-worth
00:52 — Interrupting the spiral and reclaiming clarity
01:10 — Welcome to The Anya Garcia Show + courtroom to homeschool journey
02:15 — The voice of doubt and what truly creates peace
03:10 — Neuroscience proof: One thought at a time
03:45 — Mental chaos illusion: your brain's switching trick
04:20 — The whisper of excuses that shape your identity
05:12 — Linda Clemons’ moment: Why rent-free thoughts must go
06:00 — Kitchen chaos story + the gut-punch moment
07:05 — How one thought hijacks your nervous system in 30 seconds
07:50 — Calm to chaos: identity formed by what you believe
08:20 — Fight-or-flight: what your brain is wired for vs. what you need
09:12 — Modern-day tigers: comparison, guilt, and fear
10:00 — My messy morning story + sunscreen art hack
11:02 — One thought shift = new energy and new identity
11:30 — Behavior > labels: prove that inner voice wrong
12:28 — Morning myth and 2011 jeans debunked with action
13:05 — Gratitude’s biological power and ancient roots
13:50 — Pause, question, gratitude: the fastest nervous system reset
14:25 — Children absorb your energy—not just your words
14:52 — Emotions and thoughts as waves—you decide what to ride
15:30 — Thought neutrality: shore of your mind exercise
15:55 — Choose thoughts that serve you + final wisdom
16:09 — Weekly challenge + closing inspiration and gratitude
Resources & Links
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📑 Research & Sources Mentioned
- Clemons, L. (n.d.). Mindset keynote presentation. MindValley Live. (Quote referenced: “Don’t let negative thoughts live in your mind rent-free.”)
- Dispenza, J. (2017). Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc.
- Hebb, D. O. (1949). The Organization of Behavior: A Neuropsychological Theory. New York: Wiley.
- Einstein, A. (n.d.). "The mind can only hold one thought at a time." Widely attributed, cited in focus and mindset research.
- Siegel, D. J., & Bryson, T. P. (2011). The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind. New York: Delacorte Press.
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