Giving advice to soon feels helpful—but often backfires.

In this episode, Sean Watson and Dr. Howie Jacobson unpack why telling people what to do makes you the bottleneck… and how a simple reframe—“What might you try?”—can turn you into a better leader, teammate, teacher, or coach.

Whether you're managing a global team, supporting a friend, or just trying to avoid sounding like a know-it-all, this episode is your fluency and leadership reset.

🔹 If you’re fluent in English but still feel unsure how to sound more collaborative—or if you often over-help and under-empower—this one’s for you.

🎧 What You’ll Learn:

Why giving advice too early erodes trust (and what to do instead)

How “What might you try?” unlocks ownership and courage

Why emotional safety beats quick fixes in team dynamics

How modal verbs (like might, could, would) soften tone and invite collaboration

Subtle stress and pronunciation shifts that change meaning

Why smart leaders get stuck—and how to unstick yourself without solving everything

🛠️ Methods + Tools Mentioned:

The “What Might You Try” technique

The leadership bottleneck metaphor

Modal verbs for coaching-style communication (might, could, would)

Emotional courage & ownership as behavior change levers

Subtle tone shifts in pronunciation and delivery

Cultural insight: Why Dutch directness isn’t rude—it’s Dutch

📌 Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome & Episode Preview

01:00 – Why Advice Backfires (Even When You Mean Well)

03:00 – Know-It-All Syndrome: The Hidden Status Message

05:00 – Leadership Bottlenecks: The Productivity Trap

07:00 – Emotional Courage & Ownership in Communication

09:00 – “What Might You Try?” vs “What Will You Do?”

11:00 – Modal Verbs for Softening Tone

13:00 – When Advice Feels Like Criticism

15:00 – How to Stay Curious (Even When You're Right)

17:00 – Stress Practice: What Might You Try?

19:00 – Meta-Talk and Cross-Cultural Feedback Tips

21:00 – Fluent Edge Challenge & Pronunciation Exercise

22:00 – Coaching Links & Wrap-Up

📬 Let’s Connect:

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🎯 Coaching with Howie: https://tinyurl.com/yty9n5np

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📧 Contact: [email protected]

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