DARVO in Real Life: The Public Lie vs. The Private Pain-Part 2 of 4: "Living in the Aftermath of DARVO"
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đď¸ Episode 24 -DARVO in Real Life: The Public Lie vs. The Private Pain
July Spotlight â Mental Health & Entrepreneurship
Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth
đ§Part 2 of 4: "Living in the Aftermath of DARVO"
"Welcome back to The Trigger and The Truth. Iâm your host, Tina White. This is Part 2 of our July Spotlight: DARVO in Real Life.
Today, weâre talking about the part nobody warns you about: what happens when the lie gets louder than the truth.
When your abuser becomes the victim.
When the public believes themâand youâre left alone with your pain."
PART 1: LIVING IN THE LIE THEY CREATED
âAfter the assault, after the betrayal, you think the worst part is over. You think itâs behind you. But noâThe violence was the opening act.
What followed was a campaign. A smear campaign built on denial, half-truths, and full-blown lies.
My sibling started telling the story before I could even process what happened. They controlled the narrative. They said I was unstable, bitter, exaggerating.
And what happens when a charismatic liar starts talking before the truth can catch up?
People believe them."
PART 2: DARVO EXPLAINED IN REAL LIFE TERMS
"This isnât just family dysfunction. This is DARVO at work.
Deny: They said it never happened.
Attack: They told others I was crazy, aggressive, and starting drama.
Reverse Victim and Offender: Suddenly, they were crying to others about how I had mistreated them.
And the scariest part?
People love a victim story. Especially when itâs wrapped in charm and tears."
PART 3: THE PRIVATE PAIN OF PUBLIC DISBELIEF
"I was left to sit in silence.
I couldnât post about it. I couldnât cry to the people I thought were my support system. Because some of those people had already been recruited by the lie.
You ever been betrayed and then have to watch people comfort the person who hurt you? Thatâs a special kind of heartbreak.
The isolation was brutal.
The confusion was worse.
I kept asking myself, Am I crazy? Did I make this up? Am I overreacting?
Thatâs what DARVO does. It doesnât just attack your story. It attacks your sanity."
PART 4: THE IMPACT ON BUSINESS AND MENTAL HEALTH
"Letâs talk factsâbecause this isnât just emotional. Itâs financial.
I lost focus. I lost deals. I lost sleep.
Clients could sense my energy shift. Partners could feel my withdrawal.
And then COVID hitâand my already fragile business foundation crumbled even further.
I was in survival mode:
Trying to keep my business alive.
Trying to keep my family safe.
Trying to keep my mind from breaking completely.
But surviving isnât the same as healing. And working yourself to death doesnât make the pain go away."
PART 5: NAMING THE TRUTH, EVEN WHEN THEY WONâT
"It took me a long time to say this out loud without choking on the guilt and shame.
But let me say it for somebody listening today:
They may never admit what they did. But that doesnât mean it didnât happen.
You donât need their confession to validate your survival.
Your peace is not on hold until they tell the truth.
Sometimes, the healing begins when you stop waiting for the apologyâand start speaking your truth, whether anyone claps for it or not."
PART 6: UPLIFTING TAKEAWAY â RECLAIMING YOUR VOICE
"If youâre in that place where the lie feels louder than your voiceâdonât stop talking.
Even if you have to tell your story alone in your journal at first. Even if nobody believes you yet.
Your truth will outlast their story.
And one day, your healing will be louder than their denial.
Keep building. Keep leading. Keep healing.
Because what they did isnât your legacy. What you build from the rubble is."
"If this episode spoke to you, I encourage you to share it with someone who feels silenced right now.
Next, weâll talk about what it really takes to rebuild your business and mental health after betrayal.
Until thenâprotect your peace, guard your truth, and remind yourself daily: you are not the villain in your survival story."
đ§ Listen now: Living in the Aftermath of DARVO
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