In this episode, we explore the importance of principles and agreements in creating a successful relationship, drawing inspiration from Stan Tatkin's PACT method. We discuss the concept of the relationship as a 'boat' where both partners must collaborate for it to function. Everything outside the couple is considered a 'third,' including kids, jobs, and finances. We delve into how general principles, like honesty and financial prudence, can sometimes conflict and how these can be translated into specific agreements to prevent disputes. The discussion also covers the significance of prioritizing the relationship for overall well-being and offers practical examples for aligning on shared goals, such as going on holidays or maintaining daily affectionate rituals. Join us to learn strategies for creating a strong, collaborative partnership.