📌 Episode Description:

What do you do when life knocks the wind out of you—through trauma, grief, a painful memory, or something you never saw coming?

In this episode, we explore four simple but powerful questions to help you start processing pain and walking toward healing.

These trauma-informed tools can help bring clarity when your mind feels scattered.

Whether you’ve experienced a recent crisis or an old wound keeps resurfacing, this episode offers a gentle, practical guide to start making sense of the hurt—and hearing what God may want you to know in the midst of it.

🎧 Listen in and learn:

• How trauma affects memory and emotional processing
• 4 healing questions to guide yourself (or someone else) through pain
• Why asking “Why?” keeps us stuck—and the better question to ask
• A powerful reminder of God’s goodness, even in suffering

01:03 – Episode intro: When life comes out of nowhere

01:40 – What inspired this episode

02:12 – Trauma, memory, and why our brains feel scattered

03:01 – Question #1: What happened?

03:21 – Question #2: How did you feel?

04:44 – Question #3: What was the hardest part for you?

05:41 – Why “why” questions can keep us stuck

06:12 – Bonus Question: God, what do You want me to know about this?

07:01 – A note on spiritual healing and God’s character

08:21 – Final encouragement and how to use these questions in real life

🧠 Key Takeaways

• Trauma scatters the brain. Simple, clear questions help organize and name what happened.
• Naming emotions matters. You can’t heal what you don’t name.
• Getting to the hardest part reveals deeper fears—like abandonment, shame, or helplessness.
• “Why?” isn’t always helpful. Asking God, “What do You want me to know?” invites healing insight.
• God is not the source of our pain, but He is always present and able to heal it.

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DISCLAIMER

I am a licensed professional counselor, however this podcast (and the info shared on my blogs and social media) is not therapy. It is for informational purposes only; this is not a professional therapy relationship; and it is not personal advice to your specific situation. If you wonder whether professional counseling may be helpful for you in this season of life, check out this article that outlines when you might need to seek the help of a professional counselor and how to find a good one: https://shelleyspence.com/how-to-find-a-christian-counselor

LINKS

Trauma Healing Institute:

https://www.traumahealingbasics.org/three-questions

How to Find a Christian Counselor:

https://shelleyspence.com/how-to-find-a-christian-counselor

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