You Don't Have to Earn Joy: Breaking the ADHD Shame/Productivity Cycle
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Do you ever find yourself avoiding things you enjoy because you didn’t “earn” it by getting enough done?
Welcome to the ADHD shame/productivity cycle.
It sounds like: “No fun until the work is done.”
But here’s the problem: for ADHD brains, the work often never feels done — so joy just keeps getting postponed.
In this episode, we’re unpacking the emotional trap of withholding joy as punishment for not being “productive enough,” why that strategy completely backfires, and how to replace it with something that actually supports momentum and mental health.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Why ADHD brains link joy to productivity — and how that turns into self-punishment.
- The difference between real joy and numbing distractions.
- What to do when you give yourself joy but still don’t do the thing.
- The real reasons ADHD brains resist tasks.
- ADHD-friendly strategies that work with your brain, not against it.
- Why celebrating small wins helps rewire your motivation.
- A big, fat permission slip to stop waiting for permission.
🔗 Links & Resources:
- Grab your free Quick Wins Playbook: Small wins, big momentum. ADHD-friendly strategies to get unstuck and feel capable again.
- Join the waitlist for the Level Up Lab: My membership for ADHD adults who want structure, support, and a judgment-free space to figure things out.
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