You ever feel like your influence isn’t landing?

You’re showing up… saying all the right things… bringing the energy…

But somehow, it’s all falling flat. People aren’t fazed. Let’s call it what it is — you don’t need to be louder. You need to go deeper.

This is exactly why I brought back Retired Green Beret, Scott Mann, and Serial Entrepreneur & Business Coach, Chris White, to the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show. Scott spent decades building trust in combat zones — where influence was literally the difference between his life or death. Chris has coached hundreds of leaders in business — where deals are lost every single day over lack of connection.

Both Scott and Chris agree: You don’t own the room because of what you say. You own the room when you connect with the person across from you.

So, if you’re tired of being ignored…If you’re ready to start OWNING EVERY ROOM you walk into, then lock into this episode!

In this episode, you will hear:

• How elite leaders build instant trust by reconnecting with their own identity before trying to influence others
• Why mastering the human operating system is the missing key to showing up calm, clear, and confident in high-pressure situations
• The surprising neuroscience behind why most people fail to connect — and how to fix it with a few simple shifts
• What “storyselling” is, and how it creates more impact than traditional storytelling in leadership, sales, and parenting
• Scott’s three power questions to ask before any high-stakes conversation, pitch, or meeting
• Why slowing down, listening deeply, and asking better questions is your fastest path to influence in today’s distracted world

Key Quotes

• "We follow leaders who are relatable to our pain and relevant to our goals." - Scott Mann
• “Turn your phone off and ask better questions. Go deeper.” - Chris White

Connect with Scott

• Scott’s Linktree to all social profiles, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/rooftop_leadership

• Websites:

  • https://scottmann.com/
  • https://rooftopleadership.com/
  • http://theheroesjourney.org/
  • https://lastoutplay.com/
  • https://operationpineappleexpress.com/
  • https://operelief.org/

• TEDx Talks:

  • The Generosity of Scars: https://youtu.be/_szAosvdWdM
  • Rooftop Leadership: https://youtu.be/M78sDuehUnk
  • Surrounded on Purpose: https://youtu.be/61eEC1-L6RI

Connect with Chris

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coach-chris-white/
• Website: https://www.coachchris.io/

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jamesJRreid
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamesjrreid/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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