In this episode, Colleen names the real culprit behind so many evening drinking spirals: not lack of willpower, but an overloaded nervous system weighed down by thought patterns we treat as facts. She challenges the idea that we need to “solve” our problems in order to feel better—and instead offers a radical invitation: what if the problems aren’t the problem? What if it’s our focus that’s keeping us stuck?

Through candid stories from her own life, Colleen models what it looks like to let go of the drama we’re not meant to carry. From ex-spouses to global politics, she demonstrates the power of conscious disengagement—choosing presence over rumination, joy over justification, clarity over control. This isn’t emotional avoidance. It’s sovereignty.

When we stop trying to manage what was never ours to fix, we finally free up the energy to create what we actually want.

🔑 Key Takeaways:

• Focusing on what’s wrong often keeps you in the same loop—regardless of your intentions.

• Emotional dysregulation is often driven by what you're thinking about, not what’s actually happening.

• You can’t solve stress by overanalyzing it—you have to stop feeding it.

• Compassion isn’t the same as carrying other people’s chaos.

• Most of your anxious thoughts are optional—and so is your suffering.

• Power isn’t control; it’s choice. And you always have one.

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