What Compatibility Really Means In A Relationship: Dating In Your 30s Beneath The Seams podcast

What Compatibility Really Means in a Relationship: Dating in Your 30s

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What does it really mean to be compatible with someone?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this — and honestly, I think intellectual compatibility might be my biggest struggle. Not chemistry, not vibes, not attraction… but finding someone who can actually meet me where my mind is.

In this episode, I’m talking about:

-Why being “chosen” doesn’t make you more special — God already did that

-Why I can’t date someone who isn’t spiritually grounded

-The 5 layers of compatibility (and why intellect ranks high for me)

-The Baby Mama story — and the moment I realized we weren’t equally yoked

-Why visionary women struggle to “fit” into a man’s plan

-My recent dating app voice notes (yes, you’re gonna scream 😩)

If you’ve ever felt too deep, too complex, or too much to be understood — this one’s for you.

Let’s go Beneath The Seams! 🤐

00:00 Coming Up — “I’ve never been asked for my hand in marriage, and I don’t wanna be a baby mama.”

02:10 Defining compatibility

09:12 Why intellectual connection matters more than just a vibe

15:40 The Baby Mama story — and the laughter that told me everything

20:02 Spiritual alignment as a non-negotiable

26:45 Lifestyle preferences: hiking vs. brunch & finding middle ground

32:04 Power couples & merging visions

38:20 Storytime: “You’ll miss your blessing” 😭

42:11 Storytime: The 1:30 AM “you up?” text (sir, please)

44:26 Listener prompt — which type of compatibility do you crave most?

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