461: When Values Collide with Meg Rentschler, MSW, PCC
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How do you react when a client shares a perspective that fundamentally contradicts everything you believe about fairness, justice, or human dignity? In that moment, you face a choice that could define this session AND the entire coaching relationship. We need to know how to respond when our deeply held beliefs collide with our client’s worldview. Our focus for today’s show is relevant and timely because it is a reality we face more than ever in this polarized world. It is a challenging aspect of professional coaching, and we need to be prepared to navigate this divide. We are discussing practical tools and a framework for maintaining your professional integrity while honoring your client’s integrity and growth. Join us to learn more!
Show Highlights:
- The reality of today’s polarized world: We are more and more likely to encounter clients with deeply rooted differences in values than our own.
- 4 key themes in navigating these values challenges:
- Focus on process over content to maintain coaching effectiveness.
- Use curiosity as the bridge when perspectives diverge.
- Develop the emotional regulation to stay present in the face of discomfort.
- Cultivate our own self-awareness to recognize when our values might be interfering with our client’s journey.
- Coaching is about the client’s agenda—not the coach’s agreement with that agenda.
- Our job, as a coach, is to balance, support, and challenge that agenda.
- Genuine curiosity transcends judgment and opens possibilities.
- Stay present and remain focused in each session; recognize when your personal triggers are activated.
- Use self-awareness to benefit the client.
- Notice the red flags when your emotional reactions compromise your effectiveness.
- Understanding client-coach compatibility and boundaries
- Ethical considerations to think about regarding race, bias, gender, religion, etc.
- The core value of humanity in the ISS
- Practical tools for self-reflection (Download my assessment guide to help.)
- Using collaborative (not judgmental) language about the client-coach partnership
- The coaching mindset in action: Be open, curious, flexible, and client-centered.
- Don’t be afraid of vulnerability and authenticity!
- Your own self-awareness is non-negotiable!
- Mindset is everything.
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