“Release yourself from the idea that your relationship needs to fit into anybody's box.”

Have you ever wondered if you and your partner are truly compatible? Or struggled to express your needs, feeling lost in a sea of unmet expectations? Whether you’re exploring non-monogamy, redefining relationship norms, or simply seeking deeper connections, this episode is for you. Our guest, Dr. Joli Hamilton, is a relationship coach, sex educator, and co-host of the “Playing with Fire” podcast. She’s on a mission to help people design non-monogamous partnerships that align with their authentic selves—no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding.

Join Erin and Dr. Joli as they delve into what it means to truly know and communicate your needs within a relationship, whatever form it takes. This episode is a bold invitation to reimagine relationships and a reminder that it’s never too late to build the life you truly want. Together, we navigate through:

• Why many people default to monogamy without questioning if it’s truly right for them.
• The role of the Internet in normalizing conversations about non-monogamy.
• The power of intentionality in defining your relationship goals, whether monogamous, non-monogamous, or something uniquely yours.
• Unpacking ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, monogamish, and creative monogamy—and the need for accessible language around non-traditional relationships.
• Why regularly reassessing your relationships is essential to meet the evolving needs of both partners.
• The value of knowing your “relationship bottom lines” and non-negotiables.
• Individuation: breaking free from societal norms to uncover your true self and find fulfillment outside the status quo.
• Why honesty and willingness to do the deep work are essential for any relationship to thrive—monogamous or otherwise.

OUR GUEST: Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She is a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, Cosmo, and NPR.

Want more Dr. Joli? Learn more about her at https://www.jolihamilton.com/ and take her quiz to see if you are ready to open your relationship happily: www.JoliQuiz.com Check out her podcast Playing with Fire: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/playing-with-fire/id1540852334

Follow her on:

• Instagram: @drjoli_hamilton
• Facebook: @dr.joli.hamilton
• LinkedIn: @joli-hamilton-phd

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