119. IFS For Couples: Why Understanding Your “Parts” Changes Everything The Art Of We podcast

119. IFS for Couples: Why Understanding Your “Parts” Changes Everything

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Ever feel like your emotions take over during conflict? What if there was an easier way to navigate tough conversations? In this episode, we dive into Internal Family Systems (IFS)—a powerful approach to understanding the different "parts" of ourselves and how they show up in relationships. We share how this model has transformed our ability to work through triggers, deepen our connection, and show up for each other's growth in a way that fosters security and desire.

“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer

(00:00) – The power of how we phrase emotions

(00:38) – Exploring Internal Family Systems (IFS)

(01:20) – How we use IFS in our partnership and why

(03:38) – What are “parts” in IFS?

(06:27) – Uncovering the hidden parts of ourselves

(07:10) – The hero, the critic, and the scared child

(08:14) – How trauma shapes our inner system and leads to self-sabotage

(10:20) – Why IFS is a game-changer for couples

(12:06) – How IFS prevents CO-dependency and strengthens the “we”

(14:45) – The importance of shared language in partnerships

(15:50) – Conflict repair: Naming our parts de-personalizes triggers

(17:07) – How IFS turned a potential rupture into connection

(19:04) – Holding each other's parts together vs. rejecting them

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