In this episode of Rediscovering Connection, I sit down with Professor Corey Keyes - renowned sociologist, pioneering mental health researcher, and author of “Languishing: How to Feel Alive Again in a World That Wears Us Down.” Corey shares the real story behind his work on languishing and flourishing, the power of social fitness, and why connection is far more than counting friends or likes.
We explore:
✅ Why social wellbeing is always the hardest to achieve - and the most overlooked key to happiness
✅ Flourishing vs. mental health: why “feeling fine” is not enough
✅ The science of meaningful relationships: quality over quantity, every single time
✅ Social fitness - what it is, and why it matters as much as physical or spiritual fitness
✅ Friendship, loneliness, and the complex path back to real connection
✅ Corey’s own story - healing trauma, building community, and the messy beauty of connection in everyday life.
If you’ve ever felt disconnected - even with a full social feed - or wondered how to nurture deep, lasting relationships, this conversation with Corey Keyes may transform the way you understand social health.
🎙️ Tune in for honest stories, science-backed wisdom, and practical advice on flourishing in our complex, fast-paced world.
Timestamps
[00:00] – Intro: Meet Professor Corey Keyes and the truth about social wellbeing
[04:15] – Why quality beats quantity in relationships—social media myths and real-life loneliness
[08:30] – Connection, trauma, and healing: Corey’s personal journey
[13:20] – Flourishing demystified: how mental health is much more than the absence of illness
[18:45] – Social fitness, group fear, and building community after setbacks
[25:10] – Why it’s so hard to reconnect—and how grief opens the door to new connections
[31:30] – Practical ways to curate your life with meaningful reminders and moments
[37:00] – Teaching happiness: embracing both sadness and joy
[41:20] – Spiritual fitness, vulnerability, and finding friendship in unexpected places
[47:55] – What makes connection worth rediscovering—messy, real, and lifegiving
[54:00] – Closing inspiration: connection isn’t perfect, but it’s always worth the work
Links
Find Corey Keyes:
Book: “Languishing: How to Feel Alive Again in a World That Wears Us Down” (Audible, Bookshop, Amazon)
Academic research: Google Scholar (Corey Keyes)
Connect with Host Shelley Doyle
Website: The Communiverse https://www.thecommuniverse.com/
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shelleydoyle

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I hope our conversation inspires you to rediscover connection in your own life.
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Love & sparkles,
✨Shelley
About Your Host

Hello you, I’m Shelley Doyle, founder of The Communiverse™, learning designer, facilitator, and host of the Rediscovering Connection podcast. My Master’s research focused on the relational investments of remote and hybrid leaders, published with a financial services firm and supported by Mitacs. With 20 years of international business and communications leadership, I now help remote and relocated leaders feel more socially wealthy - personally and professionally, online and offline - through programs, consulting, and training.
I have 5 spots available in my program Social Wealth Activation, starting w/c Dec 1st. Email: [email protected] to request info.
Find out more at TheCommuniverse.com or find me on LinkedIn.

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