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Rebounding After Relationship Rupture: The Dangers of Premature Repair

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In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the delicate, often misunderstood moment that follows an interpersonal disconnect. This episode examines how micro-ruptures—those subtle moments when a tone shifts, a comment lands poorly, or a sense of distance quietly appears—can profoundly impact emotional safety long before anything is acknowledged out loud.

Dr. Perry unpacks why these moments are uniquely challenging for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He explains how discomfort, shame, and the loss of emotional control can activate defensive strategies that feel instinctive in the moment but ultimately undermine trust and connection. Instead of regulating internally, many unconsciously reach for overt defense, covert defense, or premature repair—attempts to ease their own discomfort rather than meet the relational moment with presence.

Listeners will learn about:

  • What micro-ruptures look like in real-life dynamics
  • Why narcissistic individuals often rush to repair in order to regain emotional control
  • The difference between emotional urgency and emotional responsibility
  • How premature repair protects comfort but blocks connection
  • Five essential practices for meaningful reconnection

Dr. Perry offers clear and compassionate insight for anyone who has felt the sting of a subtle disconnect—or for those who may unintentionally respond to these moments with speed rather than attunement. Whether you’ve sensed emotional distance growing without understanding why, or you’ve noticed your own instinct to “fix things” too quickly, this episode brings clarity, language, and a framework for authentic repair.

Tune in to discover how slowing down, staying present, and tolerating discomfort can transform a disconnect from a moment of emotional rupture into an opportunity for genuine reconnection. Healing in relationships begins not with perfection, but with presence, responsibility, and the choice to rebuild emotional safety one moment at a time.

Connect with Dr. Perry: https://drericperry.com

Own Your Stuff Online Coaching Group: https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff

Empathy Awakening Workshop: https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.

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Content provided by Dr. Eric Perry, PhD and Dr. Eric Perry. All podcast content including episodes, graphics, and podcast descriptions are uploaded and provided directly by Dr. Eric Perry, PhD and Dr. Eric Perry or their podcast platform partner. If you believe someone is using your copyrighted work without your permission, you can follow the process outlined here https://podcastplayer.com/legal.

In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the delicate, often misunderstood moment that follows an interpersonal disconnect. This episode examines how micro-ruptures—those subtle moments when a tone shifts, a comment lands poorly, or a sense of distance quietly appears—can profoundly impact emotional safety long before anything is acknowledged out loud.

Dr. Perry unpacks why these moments are uniquely challenging for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He explains how discomfort, shame, and the loss of emotional control can activate defensive strategies that feel instinctive in the moment but ultimately undermine trust and connection. Instead of regulating internally, many unconsciously reach for overt defense, covert defense, or premature repair—attempts to ease their own discomfort rather than meet the relational moment with presence.

Listeners will learn about:

  • What micro-ruptures look like in real-life dynamics
  • Why narcissistic individuals often rush to repair in order to regain emotional control
  • The difference between emotional urgency and emotional responsibility
  • How premature repair protects comfort but blocks connection
  • Five essential practices for meaningful reconnection

Dr. Perry offers clear and compassionate insight for anyone who has felt the sting of a subtle disconnect—or for those who may unintentionally respond to these moments with speed rather than attunement. Whether you’ve sensed emotional distance growing without understanding why, or you’ve noticed your own instinct to “fix things” too quickly, this episode brings clarity, language, and a framework for authentic repair.

Tune in to discover how slowing down, staying present, and tolerating discomfort can transform a disconnect from a moment of emotional rupture into an opportunity for genuine reconnection. Healing in relationships begins not with perfection, but with presence, responsibility, and the choice to rebuild emotional safety one moment at a time.

Connect with Dr. Perry: https://drericperry.com

Own Your Stuff Online Coaching Group: https://drericperry.com/ownyourstuff

Empathy Awakening Workshop: https://drericperry.com/empathyawakening

Disclaimer: The content contained in this podcast is for general information only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. Listeners should not rely on the information provided for their own health needs. All specific questions should be presented to your own healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast in no way creates a professional/working relationship between the listener and the host. If at any time you have an emergency while listening, please contact your local emergency center immediately.

  continue reading

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