Stalking isn’t love, and it's certainly not devotion. It’s control, entitlement, and fear dressed up as “concern.” Survivors know that sickening feeling of being watched, followed, or “checked on,” only to be told they’re imagining it. But as retired Detective Lieutenant Mark Wynn makes clear: stalking is real, it’s dangerous, and it’s often the red flag that precedes lethal violence.
With over four decades in policing and global training, Mark exposes how law enforcement has historically failed survivors by treating stalking like an “incident” instead of a course of conduct—a pattern of coercion, intimidation, and surveillance meant to strip away liberty. He and Lisa pull back the curtain on how abusers minimize their behaviors (“I was just sitting in my car,” “I only put a tracker on her phone”), why victims delay reporting, and how trauma responses like denial and appeasement become survival strategies. Through raw stories, chilling stats, and lived experience, they underline what too many minimize: stalking is a pathway to homicide if unchecked.
The conversation is sobering but deeply empowering. With the right tools, training, and accountability, stalking can be predicted, prevented, and prosecuted.
You are not “crazy” for feeling unsafe. Your instincts are evidence, your safety matters, and there are resources designed to help you trust those instincts and take action.
Resources Mentioned
- One Love Foundation — healthy relationship education + risk assessment app
- Bright Sky app — safety and risk assessment tool
- Ontario Domestic Abuse Risk Assessment (ODARA) — police risk assessment model
- Lethality Assessment Program (LAP) — by Dr. Jacquelyn Campbell, Johns Hopkins
- SPARC: Stalking Prevention, Awareness, & Resource Center
- SHARP: Stalking and Harassment Assessment and Risk Profile (via SPARC)
- Coercive Control by Evan Stark
- Why Do They Kill? by David Adams
- The Stalking of Kristin by George Lardner Jr.
- Mental Healness (Lee Hammock) — self-aware narcissist creator who supports survivors

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