In this episode of the Parsha Review Podcast, Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe explores Parshat Chayei Sarah (Genesis 23–25), beginning with Sarah’s lifespan—“100 years and 20 years and 7 years”—which Rashi interprets as her retaining the innocence of a 20-year-old at age 100 and the beauty of a 7-year-old at age 20. The parsha immediately transitions from her passing to Abraham sending Eliezer to find a wife for Isaac, teaching that marriage must be built with the end in mind: not just someone to live with, but someone to die with, focused on long-term purpose and legacy. Abraham, the icon of chesed (kindness), seeks a wife embodying kindness to balance Isaac’s natural gevurah (sternness) inherited from Sarah. Rabbi Wolbe stresses that the patriarchs’ actions are binding signs for us: prioritize good character over fleeting glamour, as external beauty fades but inner goodness endures.

Rabbi Wolbe contrasts superficial “falling in love” (external attraction) with Torah-based matchmaking, where intellect precedes emotion—investigating character through references, teachers, and friends before ever meeting. True love (ahava) stems from hav (to give); the more one gives selflessly, the deeper the love grows. He urges couples to be givers, not takers, and to humble themselves like dust (lakol tia) to honor each other’s perspectives, creating a new unified “us” from two distinct individuals. The parsha’s repeated narrative emphasizes looking beyond surface miracles to inner essence—Rebecca’s proactive kindness to Eliezer and his camels proves her character. Marriage is Hashem’s tool for perfection: spouses challenge and elevate each other, building a unique harmony. Rabbi Wolbe shares personal anecdotes, including his son traveling from Lakewood to Montreal to pursue his future wife, reinforcing that men must actively seek and invest effort. He closes with stories illustrating commitment for children’s sake and the Mishnah’s advice to marry young to avoid entrenched selfishness.
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This episode of the Parsha Review Podcast is dedicated in honor of Lenny & Teresa Friedman

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Recorded at TORCH Meyerland in the Levin Family Studios (B) to a live audience on November 11, 2025, in Houston, Texas.
Released as Podcast on November 13, 2025

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