Have you ever sat down, ready to rest — maybe with your coffee and Bible in hand — and before you know it, you’re scrolling through your phone, your mind already chasing the next thing? You wanted peace, but somehow ended up feeling more restless.

In this episode, Dr. Phyllis opens up about a struggle so many high-achieving women face: wanting stillness but finding it hard to stop. She shares how her own moments of “rest” often turn into distractions and how losing her mother deepened her understanding of what it really means to pause. Through honest reflection and gentle wisdom, Dr. Phyllis helps us see that rest isn’t the absence of activity but it’s the presence of awareness.

You’ll learn practical steps for reclaiming rest in your everyday life: preparing your space, removing distractions, acknowledging the discomfort of stillness, uncovering the deeper “why” behind your urge to stay busy, and surrendering that constant search for more. Instead of resisting silence, Dr. Phyllis invites you to welcome it — to let God meet you there and fill those pauses with peace instead of noise.

If you’ve ever found yourself reaching for your phone instead of your breath, or filling your quiet moments with more doing, this episode will remind you that true rest is possible and it starts with learning how to simply be still and know.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

“When we fill our pauses with scrolling, planning or busyness, we unintentionally trade presence for distraction and call it downtime."

"I believe that when we do this, we're avoiding stillness. Just like me, I was feeling the pause instead of feeling it. God was right there waiting for me at that moment. But I was looking everywhere else."

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