A quiet name change on a school register. Pronouns switched without a word to the parents. Then the reveal: at home she’s one child, at school she’s another. That’s the moment most families realise they can’t outsource their children’s formation—and it’s where our conversation with Yusuf Patel begins.
We dig into how parents can confidently navigate RSE in UK schools without retreating from education altogether. Yusuf explains why emailing questions (not just chatting at the gate) creates an audit trail that compels a school to reflect: what exactly is being taught, which parts are compulsory, and how will the religious background of pupils be respected? We unpack the latest legal clarity on biological sex, what it means for toilets, uniforms, social transitioning, and safeguarding, and how to press for policy updates that protect freedom of belief in the classroom. Real case studies show how calm complaints turned into apologies, revised policies, and cancelled sessions when materials crossed the line—proof that small, strategic wins protect many children.
Then we turn the lens homeward. Values are caught, not taught, so we talk about building a lived Islam that children can see: praying on time, modelling charity, showing gratitude and tawbah, and aligning daily choices with faith. Yusuf calls fathers to emotional availability—hugs, words of affection, and presence that inoculate against online echo chambers and peer pressure. And when a child says, “I’m not a boy,” we offer a roadmap rooted in love: slow down, look beneath the label, rebalance home routines, limit digital triggers, and seek a trusted Muslim counsellor who explores underlying needs rather than fast-tracking identity claims.
If you’re a parent, teacher, or governor looking for practical steps, legal awareness, and heart-level guidance, this conversation will equip you to engage schools wisely and strengthen your home. Subscribe, share with a fellow parent, and leave a review with the one question you’ll email your school this week. Your voice—and your love—can change the outcome.

Chapters:

0:00 Chapter 1 - Intro

1:41 Chapter 2 - The Challenge of Sexualised Education

2:10 Chapter 3 - Step One: Know What’s Being Taught

3:55 Chapter 4 - The Power of Engagement

5:35 Chapter 5 - Know Your Rights: The Parental Toolkit

8:54 Chapter 6 - Case Study: A Father’s Impact

11:25 Chapter 7 - Real-Life Incident: A Child Punished for His Faith

13:59 Chapter 8 - Every Success Counts

15:08 Chapter 9 - Teach Children to Speak Out

16:47 Chapter 10 - Courage in the Classroom

19:14 Chapter 11 - Gender Ideology in Primary Education

24:17 Chapter 12 - Advice to Parents

25:31 Chapter 13 - Develop a Child's Relationship With Allah

28:07 Chapter 14 - The Absent Father Problem

30:24 Chapter 15 - The Sunnah of Showing Love

34:18 Chapter 16 - How to Raise Dysfunctional Children

40:04 Chapter 17 - If your child comes to you and says...

46:15 Chapter 18 - Conclusion

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