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#183: How to Be a Better Partner
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When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what isn’t working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down.
But in this episode, I want to invite a slightly different lens: what does it mean to be a better partner? Not from a place of self-sacrifice or perfectionism, but from a grounded, secure place. One that’s rooted in love, compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to show up with care.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why our capacity to sit with discomfort can shape the tone of our relationships
- What it really means to listen with curiosity, rather than defensiveness
- How our own insecurities can make us self-focused without realising it
- The importance of meaningful repair after conflict
- The difference between blame and honest self-reflection
- Why it matters to love your partner the way they receive love—not just how you like to give it
These aren’t tips to make yourself more palatable or easygoing. They’re invitations to grow, to connect more deeply, and to take ownership of your part in creating a secure and nourishing relational space.
Free Masterclass: Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
Highlighted Links
- FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love
- Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
- September 2025 London Event Waitlist
Additional Resources
185 episodes
Manage episode 475923072 series 3407019
When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what isn’t working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down.
But in this episode, I want to invite a slightly different lens: what does it mean to be a better partner? Not from a place of self-sacrifice or perfectionism, but from a grounded, secure place. One that’s rooted in love, compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to show up with care.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why our capacity to sit with discomfort can shape the tone of our relationships
- What it really means to listen with curiosity, rather than defensiveness
- How our own insecurities can make us self-focused without realising it
- The importance of meaningful repair after conflict
- The difference between blame and honest self-reflection
- Why it matters to love your partner the way they receive love—not just how you like to give it
These aren’t tips to make yourself more palatable or easygoing. They’re invitations to grow, to connect more deeply, and to take ownership of your part in creating a secure and nourishing relational space.
Free Masterclass: Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
Highlighted Links
- FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love
- Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
- September 2025 London Event Waitlist
Additional Resources
185 episodes
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