Summary:
In this powerful episode, Sam Marion speaks with educator and kink community leader Cat Orme about her late ADHD diagnosis and how that lens has reshaped her understanding of herself and her work. Cat shares how neurodivergent needs are actively centered in the BDSM spaces she helps create—from sensory-informed negotiation forms to simple but impactful accommodations like the "off-limits couch." This conversation explores intersectionality, shame, compassion, and the profound value of designing environments where people feel seen and safe.

Quotes:

• “I just thought I couldn't focus because I wasn't trying hard enough. But it turns out, it's not about the effort.”

• “Neurodivergent people don't have to consider themselves other than your needs are as much a part of what needs to happen as anyone's.”

• “It's not a big deal. It's not an impossible accommodation. It's just a matter of our having become aware of how something like that is helpful to some people.”

Contact Information:
Website: https://www.kinkcollective.net

Keywords:

• Neurodivergence

• Kink and neurodivergence

• Sensory needs

• Late-identified ADHD

• Trauma-informed kink

• BDSM education

• Neurodivergent-friendly spaces

• Intersectionality and neurodivergence

• Consent communication

• Sensory accommodations

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