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Why are boundaries SO hard? Because they force your brain to choose between listening to yourself and keeping others happy. You want to honor your own needs but if your nervous system thinks doing so will have negative social or relational consequences, it’ll always default to connection over self-trust and prioritize attachment over authenticity.

This episode goes deep into what boundaries really are (so not what you think), why they’re not just essential but good, and the neuroscience behind why they are so inherently difficult to set and hold.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Boundaries aren’t threats, punishment, or control-seeking. They also have nothing to do with other people!
• Why the holidays are a perfect storm for boundary violations
• Why it’s essential to clarify your boundaries ahead of time and long before your nervous system gets stressed out by a violation
• Boundaries are how you rebuild self-trust, which is crucial for emotional health and physical wellbeing.
• And most importantly, that if boundaries feel terrifying, you’re doing it RIGHT!

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HOMEWORK:

Your homework for this episode is to identify one boundary that you have (or want to have). Determine now what you will do if and when someone crosses that boundary. How can you avoid getting triggered, and instead calmly but firmly prove to yourself that you can trust yourself to honor your own needs and keep you safe? Email me or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts!

If this episode was helpful, remember you are always welcome to book a free 60 minute consult with me if you want to talk more about your personal situation.

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to hear a kick-in-the-pants interview I did with my personal health and fitness coach. We go deep into why it's so hard for moms to prioritize their physical health and some really simple, powerful ways to change that for good. I’ll also share more about my incredible health journey this year—don’t miss it!

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