"You can't make that kid do a damn thing." These words echoed through my mind as I reflected on the unique journey of parenting my strong-willed, neurodivergent son. The path has been anything but straightforward, filled with unexpected challenges, tearful breakthroughs, and moments of profound doubt.
When Grant was born in June 2020—our COVID baby—we noticed his babbling seemed to taper off around seven months old. What followed was a winding road through early intervention, speech therapy, occupational therapy, and eventually an IEP with a developmental delay diagnosis. As any parent of a child with communication difficulties knows, when language is delayed, behaviors often intensify. Our home became a battleground of emotions and tantrums as Grant struggled to express his needs in a world that felt overwhelming to him.
The most challenging aspect wasn't just the therapies or the mid-year school change we recently navigated—it was the constant questioning. Was this typical boy behavior? Was it because we speak Spanish at home? Was I failing him somehow? Just this week, after Grant graduated from speech therapy but continues to struggle with potty training, a pediatric pelvic floor specialist validated what my heart knew all along: "Claire, rewards and sticker charts don't work for these issues." Those words brought me to tears. Sometimes the greatest relief comes from hearing that you're not doing it wrong—the typical solutions just don't apply to your unique situation.
For parents walking similar paths with neurodivergent children or those with developmental differences, I want you to know you're not alone. Our kids who live by their own internal rules and rhythms are teaching us profound lessons about patience, acceptance, and finding joy in unexpected progress. They're showing us different ways of experiencing the world—even when that experience tests our limits as parents. If you're in the trenches of this beautiful, challenging journey, reach out. Share your story. Let's build community around these experiences that can feel so isolating but are more common than we realize. Because while I may not be an expert, I am a fellow traveler on this road, figuring it out one day at a time.

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