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E8: Marriage is a Preparation for Divorce | Agnes Callard & Arnold Brooks
Manage episode 468879851 series 3625936
Philosophers Agnes Callard and Arnold Brooks bring their intellectual rigor to marriage and relationships. They sit down with Erik Torenberg to discuss their relationship's beginnings (when Agnes was Arnold's professor), their Platonic versus Aristotelian disagreements about whether marriage is something to transcend or achieve, and why relationships must "escape their beginnings" to thrive. Agnes explains why "marriage is a preparation for divorce," while Arnold argues the healthiest foundation for partnership isn't reciprocal support but simply appreciating how your partner lives—what he calls "bearing witness.".
Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co
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RECOMMENDED IN THIS EPISODE:
* New Yorker article on Agnes and Arnold, by Rachel Aviv: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2023/03/13/agnes-callard-profile-marriage-philosophy
* Arnold Brooks: http://philosophy.uchicago.edu/arnold-brooks
* Pre-order Agnes Callard's new book Open Socrates: https://wwnorton.com/books/open-socrates
* Agnes Callard on Upstream https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JotaCsaG3Y
FOLLOW ON X:
Agnes - @agnescallard
Erik - @eriktorenberg
Turpentine - @turpentinemedia
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TIMESTAMPS:
(01:49) Intro
(02:08) Agnes' and Arnold's relationship background
(08:13) Marriage and philosophy connection
(16:38) Sponsor: Relationship Hero
(18:13) Discussion about divorce
(26:37) Relationships haunted by their beginnings
(30:18) Maintaining friendship with an ex-partner
(34:00) Advice on choosing a partner
(43:34) Conflict about ambition and contentment
(49:35) Arnold's advice to overthink marriage together
(59:42) Parenting philosophy and making children interesting
(1:04:12) Reflections
(1:08:17) Wrap
25 episodes
Manage episode 468879851 series 3625936
Philosophers Agnes Callard and Arnold Brooks bring their intellectual rigor to marriage and relationships. They sit down with Erik Torenberg to discuss their relationship's beginnings (when Agnes was Arnold's professor), their Platonic versus Aristotelian disagreements about whether marriage is something to transcend or achieve, and why relationships must "escape their beginnings" to thrive. Agnes explains why "marriage is a preparation for divorce," while Arnold argues the healthiest foundation for partnership isn't reciprocal support but simply appreciating how your partner lives—what he calls "bearing witness.".
Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co
--
SPONSOR: Relationship Hero
It’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.
--
RECOMMENDED IN THIS EPISODE:
* New Yorker article on Agnes and Arnold, by Rachel Aviv: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2023/03/13/agnes-callard-profile-marriage-philosophy
* Arnold Brooks: http://philosophy.uchicago.edu/arnold-brooks
* Pre-order Agnes Callard's new book Open Socrates: https://wwnorton.com/books/open-socrates
* Agnes Callard on Upstream https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JotaCsaG3Y
FOLLOW ON X:
Agnes - @agnescallard
Erik - @eriktorenberg
Turpentine - @turpentinemedia
--
TIMESTAMPS:
(01:49) Intro
(02:08) Agnes' and Arnold's relationship background
(08:13) Marriage and philosophy connection
(16:38) Sponsor: Relationship Hero
(18:13) Discussion about divorce
(26:37) Relationships haunted by their beginnings
(30:18) Maintaining friendship with an ex-partner
(34:00) Advice on choosing a partner
(43:34) Conflict about ambition and contentment
(49:35) Arnold's advice to overthink marriage together
(59:42) Parenting philosophy and making children interesting
(1:04:12) Reflections
(1:08:17) Wrap
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