Episode 11: The Aim Game: Learning Your Spouse's Love Bullseyes
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Dr. Tamara Fackrell and her husband Jake break down one of the biggest insights from years of working with couples:
Most people in struggling marriages are trying—but they’re aiming at the wrong targets.
In this episode, they introduce The Bullseye Marriage Board, a simple system that helps couples figure out:
• What actually matters to your spouse
• What actions hit the bullseye
• What things you’re doing that don’t even land on the board
Tamara shares how many people in divorce court weren’t failing from lack of effort—they were just working hard at the wrong things.
Jake and Tamara teach you how to:
✔️ Develop your personal Bullseye Board
Identify the specific actions, habits, gestures, and experiences that make your spouse feel most loved.
✔️ Take a “Vacation From Your Problems”
A mindset reset: step back, breathe, and create space for connection and clarity.
✔️ Flood Your Marriage With Fun
Why fun matters more than you realize—and how a playful marriage becomes a resilient marriage.
✔️ Communicate What You Actually Like
How to clearly express what hits your bullseye and ask your spouse for what works.
By the end of the episode, listeners will have a practical tool to stop wasting effort and start aiming with precision—so marriage becomes easier, happier, and more deeply connected.
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