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Summer Replay: Raising Siblings Without Rivalry – Part 1 – MBFLP 253-1

 
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Dealing with sibling rivalry

🎙 MBFLP Episode 253: Siblings Without Rivalry (Part 1)

Hosts: Hal and Melanie Young
Presented by: CTCMath.com – The math curriculum that actually makes sense!


🧩 Episode Summary

Sibling rivalry. If you’ve got more than one child, you’ve likely seen it – the teasing, bickering, pestering, and outright conflict. But what if your kids could become lifelong friends instead of rivals?

In this episode of Making Biblical Family Life Practical, Hal and Melanie answer one of the most frequently asked parenting questions:
“How do we help our kids get along?”

As parents of eight, including six boys in a row, Hal and Melanie have seen firsthand the challenge—and the blessing—of nurturing friendship between siblings. From toxic family examples to biblical discipleship and discipline, they share the guiding principles and practical rules they used to cultivate a peaceful, loving home.

💡 What You’ll Learn

  • Why creating a safe home is the first step to reducing sibling conflict

  • The difference between normal competitiveness and destructive rivalry

  • How boys and girls experience relational struggles differently

  • Why rules like “knock it off” and “no bullying” helped their large family thrive

  • The importance of shepherding your child’s heart, not just correcting behavior

  • Strategies for stopping provocation—no matter who starts it

📌 Key Quotes

“God made boys aggressive and competitive for a reason—but they need to learn to submit that to Christ.”

“Your home should be a haven, not a battlefield.”

🧠 Recommended Resources

👉 Sponsor Spotlight: CTCMath
An award-winning K–12 online math curriculum that helps your child truly understand math—anytime, anywhere.

📲 Connect with Us


🔜 Coming Up in Part 2…

How do you keep sibling competition positive and productive rather than destructive? We’ll tackle that next time with more real-world tips for large (and small!) families alike.

Raising kids without rivalry at home

One of the questions we hear most often is, “How do you deal with sibling rivalry?”

We had eight children, and six boys in a row, so we had plenty of competition and challenge to work with! A certain amount is normal and can be accommodated even within the family, but it has to be guided and supervised to keep it from becoming bullying or persecution.

Girls have their own temptations too, especially in emotional and relationship areas; we’ve known women who grew up as “mean girls” in their own family, and struggled with broken relationships decades after they left home.

We didn’t want that in our own family – we wanted our children to grow up to be friends – so we tried to take positive steps to build and protect relationships between our kids. And like Tedd Tripp says, we trained behaviors in the youngest, in the process of teaching the hearts and attitudes of all!

Principles for Preventing Sibling Rivalry

Home Should Be Safe – Nobody should feel like they have to keep their guard up when they cross the family threshold. That goes for spouses, too.

Zero Tolerance for Bullying – or Provoking – Bigger kids can tyrannize young kids, but younger kids can cause lots of trouble for older siblings, too. Proverbs 6:16 says God hates one who causes discord among brothers – so bickering and arguing are important, not just kid stuff.

See the Family as A Team – You won’t score together, if you are fighting one another instead of your enemy or opponent. Encourage your kids to pull together and support each other, especially in front of the rest of the world.

Enjoy Teasing and Wrestling but Don’t Cross the Line! – It’s fun until it’s not, for somebody. If you continue after someone calls “stop” then you’ve become a bully – see “zero tolerance” above.

Recognize How Different Your Kids May Be – and Keep an Eye on Them – Some kids can tolerate teasing and rough-housing, and some can’t. Don’t let either set the tone for everybody, but guide their interaction to head off offenses and hurts. That also goes for the child who’s quick to take offense — that’s no help either.

Next Segment – Making Competition Helpful, not Hurtful

The post Summer Replay: Raising Siblings Without Rivalry – Part 1 – MBFLP 253-1 appeared first on Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network.

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Dealing with sibling rivalry

🎙 MBFLP Episode 253: Siblings Without Rivalry (Part 1)

Hosts: Hal and Melanie Young
Presented by: CTCMath.com – The math curriculum that actually makes sense!


🧩 Episode Summary

Sibling rivalry. If you’ve got more than one child, you’ve likely seen it – the teasing, bickering, pestering, and outright conflict. But what if your kids could become lifelong friends instead of rivals?

In this episode of Making Biblical Family Life Practical, Hal and Melanie answer one of the most frequently asked parenting questions:
“How do we help our kids get along?”

As parents of eight, including six boys in a row, Hal and Melanie have seen firsthand the challenge—and the blessing—of nurturing friendship between siblings. From toxic family examples to biblical discipleship and discipline, they share the guiding principles and practical rules they used to cultivate a peaceful, loving home.

💡 What You’ll Learn

  • Why creating a safe home is the first step to reducing sibling conflict

  • The difference between normal competitiveness and destructive rivalry

  • How boys and girls experience relational struggles differently

  • Why rules like “knock it off” and “no bullying” helped their large family thrive

  • The importance of shepherding your child’s heart, not just correcting behavior

  • Strategies for stopping provocation—no matter who starts it

📌 Key Quotes

“God made boys aggressive and competitive for a reason—but they need to learn to submit that to Christ.”

“Your home should be a haven, not a battlefield.”

🧠 Recommended Resources

👉 Sponsor Spotlight: CTCMath
An award-winning K–12 online math curriculum that helps your child truly understand math—anytime, anywhere.

📲 Connect with Us


🔜 Coming Up in Part 2…

How do you keep sibling competition positive and productive rather than destructive? We’ll tackle that next time with more real-world tips for large (and small!) families alike.

Raising kids without rivalry at home

One of the questions we hear most often is, “How do you deal with sibling rivalry?”

We had eight children, and six boys in a row, so we had plenty of competition and challenge to work with! A certain amount is normal and can be accommodated even within the family, but it has to be guided and supervised to keep it from becoming bullying or persecution.

Girls have their own temptations too, especially in emotional and relationship areas; we’ve known women who grew up as “mean girls” in their own family, and struggled with broken relationships decades after they left home.

We didn’t want that in our own family – we wanted our children to grow up to be friends – so we tried to take positive steps to build and protect relationships between our kids. And like Tedd Tripp says, we trained behaviors in the youngest, in the process of teaching the hearts and attitudes of all!

Principles for Preventing Sibling Rivalry

Home Should Be Safe – Nobody should feel like they have to keep their guard up when they cross the family threshold. That goes for spouses, too.

Zero Tolerance for Bullying – or Provoking – Bigger kids can tyrannize young kids, but younger kids can cause lots of trouble for older siblings, too. Proverbs 6:16 says God hates one who causes discord among brothers – so bickering and arguing are important, not just kid stuff.

See the Family as A Team – You won’t score together, if you are fighting one another instead of your enemy or opponent. Encourage your kids to pull together and support each other, especially in front of the rest of the world.

Enjoy Teasing and Wrestling but Don’t Cross the Line! – It’s fun until it’s not, for somebody. If you continue after someone calls “stop” then you’ve become a bully – see “zero tolerance” above.

Recognize How Different Your Kids May Be – and Keep an Eye on Them – Some kids can tolerate teasing and rough-housing, and some can’t. Don’t let either set the tone for everybody, but guide their interaction to head off offenses and hurts. That also goes for the child who’s quick to take offense — that’s no help either.

Next Segment – Making Competition Helpful, not Hurtful

The post Summer Replay: Raising Siblings Without Rivalry – Part 1 – MBFLP 253-1 appeared first on Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network.

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