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I have been here myself, and I did not know I was here! I thought over giving and all the traits that came with being an anxiously attached lover was LOVE! I had no idea that not stepping into my strength and voice held me back from really finding myself and setting some really tough boundaries that my relationship needed. I was not being mean. I was choosing me too! I mattered as well.

If you’ve ever found yourself over-functioning in a relationship — chasing, overthinking, softening your truth, or silencing your needs just to feel safe — this episode is for you.

Because when you live with anxious attachment, especially in a relationship with someone avoidant, love can start to feel like emotional survival.

You try to be easy.
You try to not need too much.
You try to be chosen.
And somewhere in all of that — you lose yourself. But you are so fixated now on the relationship surviving you forget to pause and take a step back.

But here’s the truth I want you to remember:
Love is not meant to cost you your voice, your boundaries, or your identity.

In this episode, I guide you through the emotional terrain of what it really looks like to be anxiously attached in a long-term relationship or dynamic with an avoidant partner — and what it takes to begin reclaiming your space in that relationship without leaving yourself behind.

You’ll learn:

• How anxious attachment shows up in dating, marriage, and long-term love
• Why avoidant partners can trigger your deepest fears — and what to do about it
• The invisible ways you begin to shrink and abandon your needs
• How to set boundaries without guilt and stop trying to manage their discomfort
• The power of micro-boundaries to shift the dynamic
• Why self-worth isn’t a mindset — it’s a daily practice of not abandoning yourself
• How to stop calling emotional over-functioning “love”
• And how to rediscover yourself — not in opposition to the relationship, but inside it

This episode is not about fixing your partner.
It’s about coming back home to yourself.
Because your sensitivity, your feelings, your needs — they were never too much.

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