When cybersecurity expert Evgeny Kharam was in the Israeli Navy, his punishment for "messing with the network" was to present to the entire base about why it was wrong. For someone who struggled with speech issues and feared public speaking, this seemed like a nightmare. Today, that same person hosts two cybersecurity podcasts, wrote a book on technical communication, and consults with major companies worldwide.
This remarkable transformation forms the backbone of our conversation about the hidden connections between technical expertise and human connection. As a second-time immigrant who speaks English as his third language, Evgeny brings unique insight to the challenges many technical professionals face when trying to communicate complex ideas.
"I cannot have empathy if I'm not listening to what you're saying, and I need curiosity to start this," Evgeny explains, revealing the crucial sequence that leads to genuine connection. This foundational principle applies whether you're explaining firewalls to executives or simply trying to connect with the cashier at your local grocery store.
The conversation takes a fascinating turn when we explore the physiological relationship between fear and excitement. Evgeny shares the powerful "box breathing" technique used by Navy SEALs that can lower your heart rate by 10-20 beats in just minutes, effectively transforming anxiety into focused energy. For anyone who's ever felt their heart race before a presentation, this practical tool alone is worth the listen.
We also unpack the misconception that technical people "don't like people" - revealing how this usually stems from fear of judgment rather than true preference for isolation. Through stories both humorous (like presenting with a sudden nosebleed) and profound, Evgeny demonstrates how embracing vulnerability becomes a superpower in professional settings.
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