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The Only Way to Win Back Your Wife After Breaking Her Trust

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In this raw and essential episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz delivers the uncomfortable truths every man needs to hear after betraying his marriage. Drawing from his own journey through infidelity and the reconstruction of his marriage with Laura, Carl breaks down the exact roadmap that works - and exposes what doesn't. From why you should embrace lie detector tests to the power of having zero secrets, zero private conversations, and zero contact with anyone who threatens your marriage, this episode is a masterclass in accountability. Carl reveals why forgiveness took Laura three years to give (and why he didn't need it to do the work), the 24-hour grace period they instituted for catching lies, and why your response to her triggers determines everything. He shares the canned response that saved him: "I hear you, I'm sorry, I'm not going anywhere." Whether you're dealing with a full disclosure, learning patience proportional to your years of deception, or understanding why "water under the bridge" is permanently off limits, this episode provides the blueprint for men serious about redemption. Warning: This episode will challenge men who want reconciliation without radical transparency and may trigger those still hiding behind privacy in marriage.

Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/

Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/

Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.com

Supported by Plana https://plana.org/

Chapters:

00:00 - Intro

00:49 - The Question Every Betrayer Asks

03:18 - What You CAN'T Do (Force, Heal, Convince)

05:44 - You're Not Looking For Forgiveness

08:01 - Laura: "It Took Me 3 Years To Forgive"

09:32 - The Full Disclosure Requirement

12:39 - Step 1: Be Honest About Everything

16:39 - The 24-Hour Grace Period For Lies

19:03 - Step 2: Zero Contact With The Qualifier

22:54 - God Behind Bars Partnership

28:41 - Step 3: No Private Conversations Ever

32:39 - Step 4: Patience With The Past (18-36 Months)

36:27 - Step 5: Extreme Grace When She's Triggered

39:55 - "I Hear You, I'm Sorry, I'm Not Going Anywhere"

42:07 - Plana.org Partnership

42:52 - Step 6: Live With Zero Secrets

49:27 - Why Lie Detectors Are Your Friend

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In this raw and essential episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz delivers the uncomfortable truths every man needs to hear after betraying his marriage. Drawing from his own journey through infidelity and the reconstruction of his marriage with Laura, Carl breaks down the exact roadmap that works - and exposes what doesn't. From why you should embrace lie detector tests to the power of having zero secrets, zero private conversations, and zero contact with anyone who threatens your marriage, this episode is a masterclass in accountability. Carl reveals why forgiveness took Laura three years to give (and why he didn't need it to do the work), the 24-hour grace period they instituted for catching lies, and why your response to her triggers determines everything. He shares the canned response that saved him: "I hear you, I'm sorry, I'm not going anywhere." Whether you're dealing with a full disclosure, learning patience proportional to your years of deception, or understanding why "water under the bridge" is permanently off limits, this episode provides the blueprint for men serious about redemption. Warning: This episode will challenge men who want reconciliation without radical transparency and may trigger those still hiding behind privacy in marriage.

Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/

Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/

Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.com

Supported by Plana https://plana.org/

Chapters:

00:00 - Intro

00:49 - The Question Every Betrayer Asks

03:18 - What You CAN'T Do (Force, Heal, Convince)

05:44 - You're Not Looking For Forgiveness

08:01 - Laura: "It Took Me 3 Years To Forgive"

09:32 - The Full Disclosure Requirement

12:39 - Step 1: Be Honest About Everything

16:39 - The 24-Hour Grace Period For Lies

19:03 - Step 2: Zero Contact With The Qualifier

22:54 - God Behind Bars Partnership

28:41 - Step 3: No Private Conversations Ever

32:39 - Step 4: Patience With The Past (18-36 Months)

36:27 - Step 5: Extreme Grace When She's Triggered

39:55 - "I Hear You, I'm Sorry, I'm Not Going Anywhere"

42:07 - Plana.org Partnership

42:52 - Step 6: Live With Zero Secrets

49:27 - Why Lie Detectors Are Your Friend

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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