In this episode of Life Unscripted: Adulting Uncovered, I dive deep into one of the biggest illusions in modern dating, mistaking chemistry for real connection.

You know that instant spark, the butterflies, the dopamine rush, the late-night texting that feels like destiny? That isn’t always love. Sometimes, it’s your nervous system recognizing familiarity and calling it passion.

I unpack the science behind attraction, dopamine, oxytocin, and adrenaline and explain how our brains can confuse excitement with alignment. I explore how childhood conditioning and emotional unpredictability can train us to crave chaos and mistake it for love.

Real connection activates something else entirely: the parasympathetic nervous system, the system that lets you feel calm, safe, and seen. In a world addicted to intensity, learning to trust peace is the new kind of growth.

This is a conversation for anyone tired of the cycle, tired of chasing chemistry that burns out fast and ready to build the kind of love that lasts.

If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why do I keep attracting the same type?” or “Why do calm relationships feel boring?” this episode is your mirror.

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