Stop Setting Yourself on Fire to Keep Others Warm
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We reframe boundary-setting as an act of self-respect and relational clarity rather than rejection or selfishness, offering practical strategies for honoring personal limits while maintaining healthy connections.
• Boundaries aren't mean—they're maintenance for healthy relationships
• Many of us, especially women, have been taught that being agreeable equals being valuable
• Self-abandonment often feels like love but leads to resentment and burnout
• Saying "no" allows you to say "yes" to yourself and show up more authentically
• Guilt when setting boundaries is merely a sign you're breaking old programming
• Boundaries are the distance at which you can love others and yourself simultaneously
• People who respect your boundaries are showing you valuable information about the relationship
• Useful phrases: "I'm not available for that right now" or "I care about you and also need to honor my limits"
• Reflection questions to strengthen your boundary-setting practice
• Breathwork exercise: Returning to your inner authority
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Chapters
1. Episode Introduction & Skin Deep Cards (00:00:00)
2. The Myth of Mean Boundaries (00:05:45)
3. Self-Abandonment vs. Self-Respect (00:11:10)
4. Teaching People How to Treat You (00:17:21)
5. Protecting Values, Not Setting Rules (00:22:31)
6. Practical Ways to Set Loving Boundaries (00:29:23)
7. Breathwork: Returning to Inner Authority (00:32:59)
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