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0143 Female Led Relationships: What Is Subspace? A Real FLR Couple Talks Through It
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Okay, full transparency? I don’t fully understand subspace. Not in the technical, kink-encyclopedia way. And that’s exactly why we hit record on this one—from our camper, with my subbie by my side—to talk through what it means for us.
In this episode, we unpack what subspace looks like from a real-world, real-relationship perspective. This isn’t textbook BDSM theory. It’s about feeling it out (literally and emotionally), recognizing what it might look like in everyday FLR life, and realizing that you don’t need to get it “right” to start exploring.
We also talk about:
- Flogging for the first time (spoiler: I loved it)
- The struggle of noise, schedules, and migraines
- Domspace and why I might be avoiding it
- MommyDom feels… and how I’m working through the guilt of being a soft-hearted boss bitch
If you’re navigating power exchange, learning what turns you on, or just trying to figure out what the hell “subspace” actually feels like—you’re not alone. And I hope this episode makes you feel seen.
Key Points We Talked About:
- What “subspace” technically is… and how it really shows up in our dynamic
- Why wearing a cage might be a form of low-key subspace (yep, I said it)
- Domspace: is it real? Am I avoiding it? Is it my next breakthrough?
- What happens when you mix floggers, photo shoots, and a surprise moment of connection
- How I’m still growing into this lifestyle (and still sometimes feel weird about being too bossy)
- Why caregiving, humor, and guilt sometimes show up in my dominant headspace
- Letting go of shame and learning to own what this relationship stru
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Oxy-Shop.com If you're feeling creatively blocked in the bedroom, Oxy-Shop.com has a game that I’m obsessed with. It's great for beginners and seasoned FLR couples alike—fun, spicy, and totally built for this lifestyle.
They’ve got a chastity edition, a BDSM edition, and it’s all reasonably priced. I'm going to be talking about it more on the podcast! Go treat yourself: HERE!
Email Me! [email protected]
Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE!
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Also, my psuedo-autobiographical audio drama podcast "Control" will "re-debut" this spring as we drop the entire first season exclusively on Patreon!
Keywords:
domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, ...
212 episodes
Manage episode 490693205 series 2800323
Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me!
Okay, full transparency? I don’t fully understand subspace. Not in the technical, kink-encyclopedia way. And that’s exactly why we hit record on this one—from our camper, with my subbie by my side—to talk through what it means for us.
In this episode, we unpack what subspace looks like from a real-world, real-relationship perspective. This isn’t textbook BDSM theory. It’s about feeling it out (literally and emotionally), recognizing what it might look like in everyday FLR life, and realizing that you don’t need to get it “right” to start exploring.
We also talk about:
- Flogging for the first time (spoiler: I loved it)
- The struggle of noise, schedules, and migraines
- Domspace and why I might be avoiding it
- MommyDom feels… and how I’m working through the guilt of being a soft-hearted boss bitch
If you’re navigating power exchange, learning what turns you on, or just trying to figure out what the hell “subspace” actually feels like—you’re not alone. And I hope this episode makes you feel seen.
Key Points We Talked About:
- What “subspace” technically is… and how it really shows up in our dynamic
- Why wearing a cage might be a form of low-key subspace (yep, I said it)
- Domspace: is it real? Am I avoiding it? Is it my next breakthrough?
- What happens when you mix floggers, photo shoots, and a surprise moment of connection
- How I’m still growing into this lifestyle (and still sometimes feel weird about being too bossy)
- Why caregiving, humor, and guilt sometimes show up in my dominant headspace
- Letting go of shame and learning to own what this relationship stru
Get 30 Days of FREE Starlink!! (<<<<<
Lovense brings tech to the bedroom with high quality sex toys that can be controlled via bluetooth at close range, or through the app across the world!
Find out more HERE!
Oxy-Shop.com If you're feeling creatively blocked in the bedroom, Oxy-Shop.com has a game that I’m obsessed with. It's great for beginners and seasoned FLR couples alike—fun, spicy, and totally built for this lifestyle.
They’ve got a chastity edition, a BDSM edition, and it’s all reasonably priced. I'm going to be talking about it more on the podcast! Go treat yourself: HERE!
Email Me! [email protected]
Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE!
Get 30 Days of FREE Starlink HIGH SPEED internet!! (<<<<<
Also, my psuedo-autobiographical audio drama podcast "Control" will "re-debut" this spring as we drop the entire first season exclusively on Patreon!
Keywords:
domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, ...
212 episodes
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